Why did you choose IPAS?
We met Ashley (our IPAS social worker) at another organization we were with, but we weren't feeling a good connection there. Ashley suggested IPAS to us and explained what it was all about. IPAS really educated us on all types of adoption, including open adoption. We learned a lot during the process.
What was your wait like?
Our wait wasn't long, of course I can say that now! It felt long because we were already waiting at another organization for a while. We started our training class in September 2012 and were placed July 2013. I do have to say at the time I did feel like it would never happen. I would call Ashley often to follow up - bless her!
What was it like to get "the call?" What happened?
Oddly enough we had just gotten out of an appointment from the fertility specialist about 1 hour before our call. Our doctor suggested we try sooner rather than later yet once again as we had unexplained infertility. I remember we were both in Valencia when we got the call and I was really surprised. Ashley said "This is the call you have been waiting for"... I cautiously spoke with her as almost to protect myself - sounds weird I guess. I was happy but definitely shocked and very cautious in the event this fell through. The birth mom wasn't due for a month so I was worried she may change her mind.
How did you feel when you saw your baby for the first time?
It was crazy seeing William for the first time! We were waiting in a hospital room as the birth mother gave birth to him, taking bets as to the exact time of delivery! After about an hour the doctor came in and gave us the news that he arrived! Soon after they brought this little baby in to us - so tiny and precious. It didn't feel real at the time that this little baby was ours! It felt real the first month though, especially since I didn't know that babies woke up so much!!! We just love him to pieces.
Now that you have finalized, what would you share with others about the adoption process?
Our process was a bit different, as we live outside of Fresno County. It took more time than usual in terminating parental rights. While Ashley put us to ease that William was ours given the birth father's situation, it took some time for IPAS and us as things were legally processed and worked out. At the end of the day, we finalized a week after William's 1st birthday. We are just glad now we can move forward!
Other thoughts you might like to share?
This was a very tough road for our family. It takes a positive outlook and strength to take this journey. We asked ourselves why it was taking so long, and what is wrong with us? There is nothing wrong - look at who we have! We could not imagine not having William. Honestly.