When we were cleaning out my in-laws' cottage in November, I (of course) was delegated to go through the kitchen items.
In doing so, I found an old three-ring binder in which my mother-in-law had listed all the dinner and lunch parties she hosted. The list started with Christmas Dinner, December 1958 and the last entry was in 1999. Under each date, she listed the menu, a list of attendees and those who were invited but were unable to attend - and, in some cases, why they couldn't attend.
If it were for a special event, such as Dad's retirement or Valentine's Day, she noted that and in some cases she even noted the décor she used. She also made notes about the menu items or the menu in general. Next to one menu she noted "kept me in the kitchen all night." I never saw that menu again in her book. I quizzed my mother-in-law about the book and the labor it took to maintain and she simply replied, "I enjoyed doing it."
Mom Bell is from a different era. She stayed at home with the children, was a member of the country club, played golf, tennis and bridge and she loved to entertain. She didn't have food shows to watch or the Internet to search for recipes. Her meals and recipes came from cookbooks, magazines and friends. She compiled these recipes into two three-ring binders, which I also now have. There are notes beside the recipes rating the recipe: "Good," "Very Good" and sometimes "NO." The binders are divided into categories just like a cookbook. If she obtained the recipe from a friend, she jotted down the friend's name beside the recipe. She made notes to help her the next time she made the dish.
Her recipes and her menus were simple, compared to today's standards. The appetizer often was a relish tray of olives and pickles, nuts or a chipped beef dip with crackers. Many of them include a gelatin salad of some sort because they were all the rage during that time. Her entrees were simple and full of flavor and often items that could be made in advance so she could enjoy being with her guests. That is what Mom's parties were about - being together with family and friends, not to show off her culinary wizardry.
I think that one of the many reasons that dinner parties are rare is that we think we have to serve everything perfect and with a "wow" flavor. We have to give it Emeril's "BANG" to make it any good - or so we think. Perhaps, even with our busy schedules, we would be more willing to entertain if we went back to simpler meals. We aren't television chefs and we need to quit trying to be one. Cook what you know and enjoy and your friends and family will enjoy it, too. If they want earth-moving pizzazz and flavor, there are lots of great restaurants they can go to and invite you to come along!
I found many treasures in Mom's kitchen and dining room: old cookbooks, cheese boards and the tablecloth her mother crocheted for her to name a few, but the records of her parties and her recipe binders are by far the greatest treasure. They are precious history books that tell her story. I am the keeper of the memories which will be passed down to Steve's daughter and hopefully to her children.
Mom is 88 now. She is unable to entertain and in need of 24-hour care. She will never get to meet or know her great-grandchildren, but they will know her thanks to the beautiful stories told between the pages of these binders.
Teri Bell is co-owner of Miss Sophie's Marketplace at the Mighty Eighth in Pooler. Go to sophiesmarketplace.com.
CHICKEN ALA KING
I was surprised to find out that some people don't know what this is! That can be a plus for young cooks. You can pass it off as a new "wow" dish! Mom used it often when she entertained women for lunch.
1/4 cup butter, cubed
1/3 cup all-purpose flour
1/2 teaspoon salt
1 cup chicken broth
1 cup half & half or heavy whipping cream
2 cups cubed cooked chicken
1 cup frozen garden peas
1 can (4 ounces) mushrooms, drained or 1 cup fresh mushrooms sliced
1 jar (2 ounces) diced pimientos, drained
Puff Pastry Shells
In a large saucepan, melt butter; stir in flour and salt until smooth. Add the broth and cream; bring to a boil over medium heat. Cook and stir for 2 minutes or until thickened. Stir in the chicken, mushrooms, peas and pimientos; heat through. Serve over puff pastry shells.
CLUB CHICKEN
This was another popular dish at Mom's parties. It's a lot like the Chicken Ala King, but a little more substantial. She loved it because she could make it advance and slip it in the oven while she was having pre-dinner drinks with her guests.
¼ cup butter, margarine or chicken fat
¼ cup enriched (all purpose) flour
1 cup chicken broth
1 (14 ½ -ounce) can evaporated milk
½ cup water
1 ½ teaspoon salt
2 ½ cups diced cooked chicken
3 cups cooked rice
1 (4 ounce) can of mushrooms (optional)
¼ cup pimiento
1/3 cup chopped green pepper
½ cup slivered almonds toasted
Melt butter; blend in flour; gradually add broth, milk and water. Cook over low heat until thickened. Add salt. Add chicken, rice, mushrooms, pimiento and pepper. Pour into a greased 11 ½ X 7 ½ X 1 ½ dish. Bake for 30 minutes. Sprinkle with almonds. Serves 8-10.
CHIPPED BEEF DIP
1 8-ounce package dried or chipped beef
8 ounces cream cheese, softened
2 tablespoons milk
¼ cup mayonnaise or combination of mayonnaise and sour cream
¼ cup chopped pecans
Salt & Pepper to taste
4 scallions, chopped
Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Combine all ingredients and blend well. Bake for 20-25 minutes. Serve warm with crackers.