February - Winter Newsletter
(Pre/Post Adoption Consulting and Training)

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Hello Friends and Families:

Is the winter over yet? It seems that it just keeps piling on and freezing. It was 7 degrees in my car this a.m. and I could just feel my toes turning to icicles.


Things are very busy here at PACT. Caitlin made us a new logo that is fabulous (Thanks Cait)! We are almost ready to finalize the ARC brochure, and we hope you will help us to market the conference which will take place on July 7-8 in Provincetown, MA at the Provincetown Inn on the tippy tip of Cape Cod.



We've had lots of celebratory events:


The Year of The Wooden Horse is here, and we celebrated that New Year.


We kicked off our Boston Training, and that is well underway.


We kicked off the NY Training, and we have completed two fabulous classes. It is a small but mighty group and we are enjoying the work as we use a consultation model to teach various aspects of the world of adoption.


We celebrated Martin Luther King's life.


We've been working with DMH doing consultations and writing.


We've been working with DCF and did a consult in Lynn recently.


We've been working with Riverside and doing consults in Needham.



Emily is wonderful, and she and Mary have been straightening out many issues and challenges that were left behind. They are a great team and I thank them. Emily and Leslie have been accompanying me to consults and have taken great notes for the reports that follow each consult.




It was fun to go to Melissa St. John's office recently to do a co-consult. Now I can picture the lovely office that Lynette Ingram Cassel, Melissa, and Judy Hu share.


I did a talk for the Massachusetts Association of Marriage and Family Therapists last week, and it was great to meet some of the Board and many of the folks involved in that great organization.




Wheelock had a daylong conference starring the fabulous Sue Harris O'Connor, and I did a keynote panel and a couple of workshops. The students and staff were fabulous, and it was nice to be with Eileen Thompson again.


This week, I have trainings scheduled at Lexington Montessori School and at Professor Tom Cottle's class on Children at Risk at Boston University.


I have some "Table Talk" Interviews lined up for the online magazine, Gazillion Voices, and I'm enjoying those google hangouts!



Recently we have been seeing lots of cases referred by attorneys. Many are custody cases, for which I have served as an expert witness or provided recommendations for visitation. 




Other issues I have been working with lately include:

  • Divorce and adoption with adult children and dispersed locations
  • Separation due to domestic violence in adoptive families and the children's reactions to having been removed from their birth family for same reasons
  • Individuation of young adult adopteds...too close or too distant
  • Search issues when birth parent is prepared but adoptive family is not
  • Residential schools' understanding of adoption and open adoption in kinship case
  • Divorce and adoption - keeping child centered
  • Young adult adopteds and how to individuate without feeling rejected
  • Work on developing safe open relationship with birthfamily in Guatamala
  • How to decide between donor and adoption
  • Grandparents raising grandchildren
  • How to think about what kind of adoption to pursue
  • Interviews regarding Philomena
  • How to open a closed adoption when birthparent is not ready, but child is going to do it on her own if not contained by adoptive parents
  • How to deal with school-related issues in middle school
  • Supervision of Family Therapy and Adoption
  • How to choose the right school



It's not too late to register!  We are offering the option of participating in the last three sessions of the Boston Training and the last two sessions of the NYC Training.  See links below for details. 



PACT (Pre/post Adoption Consulting and Training) 

and Dr. Joyce Maguire Pavao present


The Boston/New York Post Adoption Competency 

Training For Clinicians and other Adoption Related 



 Using lecture, videos, classroom discussion, panel presentations, and consultations, this eight-month program is designed to help therapists develop the clinical sensitivity, and more important, competency needed to treat the mental health

problems of children who come from a background of abuse and neglect and who are being raised in a family other than the birth family. The course emphasizes the development of a framework of understanding about the complexity of being a child or adult in a family by adoption and the therapeutic skills that will enable practitioners to work at the individual, couples, group, and family levels of clinical practice. Woven into each class is the impact that trauma, separation and loss-- as

well as multiple moves --can have on children's development and wellbeing.





  Presented by: Adoption Resource Center (ARC) and Riverside


Click Here for full course info 


Remaining Sessions: February 28, March 21, April 25
9:00 to 2:00


To register and for more information please contact:

Emily at [email protected]





 Co-Host and Associate Presenter: Phyllis Lowinger, LCSW 




Remaining sessions: March and April 5

9:00 to 2:00


 To register and for more information please contact:

Emily at [email protected]





July 7-8, 2014 in Provincetown, MA

At the Provincetown Inn

Provincetown, Cape Cod, MA


Do you have a business or would you yourself like to sponsor an amazing conference in Provincetown in July 2014?  


If you or someone close to you is adopted or a member of any form of complex blended family, you can make a difference by helping to sponsor the conference and expanding the understanding of professionals and those who live in the world of adoption.


The conference brochure is in production and will be available by emailing [email protected] after February 14, 2014.


Please help us to produce this amazing Families of Adoption Conference.  You can help to educate and enlighten, thereby lightening the lives of many!


Contact us at [email protected] or [email protected]

220 Concord Avenue, Cambridge, MA 02138 617 547 0909

Can you believe this??? Strategically placed between Harvard and MIT!!!!! Do these young men get the kind of counseling that informs them of the future of the children?

Sad to see the end of Upstairs on the Square...We will miss all of the events at the Zebra Room and all of the kindnesses of Mary Cat and Deborah.


-- "I believe the only true way to guarantee that children are where they are supposed to be is by doing open adoptions both internationally and domestically. Mediation and education should be done, and clear understanding by sending and receiving parents and countries/states so that ALL adoptions are ethical, legal and in the very best interest of each and every child." Dr. Joyce Maguire Pavao


Pre/Post Adoption Consulting and Training
220 Concord Ave. Cambridge MA 02138
617-547-0909 [email protected]