August 2013
 Pre/Post Adoption Consulting and Training
220 Concord Ave. Cambridge, MA 01238
617 547 0909 [email protected] 
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August Meteor Showers are upon us! 


My father had me convinced that they were a display especially made for his birthday, which is August 12.  We would watch them from the beach.  Adoptive parents sometimes fear that if their children find their birth family, they will lose their role as parent.  It has been many years since I found my birth family, but nothing takes away my love and connection to my adoptive parents. My Dad died when I was 28, but I'm still thinking of him on his birthday and sending him kind thoughts 39 years later.


August is a change month. Mary is moving on and she sends her best to everyone that she has worked with while here. A Note From Mary


I am Searching for a replacement for her. We had a great person lined up and then she got the very bad news that her Mom is seriously ill with cancer and so she is staying in Atlanta for a few months. I would love to hire her but need someone right away either temp or full time to keep things moving. Send anyone our way if you know of a person who wants to temp for a few months and/or who wants the full job. Job Description


Our intern is Laura Wilson and she has been with us all summer very part-time, but will be doing her full internship beginning at the end of August. Laura is a Family Therapy Master's student at Antioch New England and we welcome her on board.


We have been happy to have Wendy Schmidt renting space in our office one day a week and she will continue to do so.  Wendy and I work together with a few families and hope to continue that practice. 


Dr. Robert Childs is a dear friend and colleague, who is having construction on his offices on Garden Street (around the corner from us), and so he has been renting our space a few days this month and it has been a pleasure to see him around and about!


The New York Course will start in October and there is l room

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The Boston Course will also start and there is room

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I'm off to London and Budapest in September. In London I will see new publisher and visit with friends. In Budapest I will speak at a conference and do a book signing.


We have done our first three VLOGS for Gazillion Voices. Two staring Sue Harris O'Connor about her book,and one with Mari Tatlow Steed about the Magdalene's.


We will eventually have links to these available, but working on some details.


Many of our old videotapes of training and of TV appearances are on VCR mode, and I am about to have them transferred to digital so that we can use them in training and post them.  Some gems.  Much of the work has been archived at the Schlessinger Library at Radcliffe/Harvard along with the works of BJ Lifton and  Lee Campbell. A treasure trove for researchers in adoption history!


I'm still working with Professor Valerie O'Brien on our Irish/International Adoption Book...slowly she goes. This is a very good clip on you tube to watch about the Magdalene's and to get a sense of what the past was.


Sex In A Cold Climate (full length)
Sex In A Cold Climate (full length)Steve Humphries' Sex in a Cold Climate , a documentary denouncing the Magdalene Asylums, which were operated by Catholic nuns in Ireland for over 100 years, ..


PACT (Pre/post Adoption Consulting and Training)

and Dr. Joyce Maguire Pavao Present 

Adoption Courses and Consultations Groups 2013-2014 
NEW! Certification in Adoption Therapy Boston  
and New York

For more information please contact:

[email protected]

Presented by:

Adoption Resource Center (ARC) and Riverside


 Click Here for Course Outline 


Dates Scheduled for 2013/2014

October 18, November 8, December 6, January 11, February 28, March 21

Fridays from 9:00 to 2:00


Cambridge location to be announced depending on class size.


Dates Scheduled for 2013/2014

October 26, November 16, January 19, 2013

February 8, March 8, and April 5, 2014

Saturdays from 9:00 to 2:00


Upper West Side Location -- to be announced


NEW! Consultation Groups New York and Boston
For Questions or Registration Please Contact:


Consultation, Supervision and Training for mental health professionals, in specialized theories and practices for working with all members of the adoptive triad, including birth mothers and fathers; adoptive mothers and fathers; and the adopted persons. The continuum of care from foster care (or orphanage) to kinship, guardianship or adoption is an important foundation of understanding necessary to be competent in working with families and children in the world of adoption. All of these family constructions will be discussed and included in the program. 


Meeting to Discuss Changing Massachusetts Law to Allow all Adult Adopted people born in Massachusetts Access to their Original Birth Certificates 

Cambridge, Massachusetts: July 22, 2013 - The public is invited to the first meeting of ACCESS MASSACHUSETTS, a grass roots effort dedicated to passing legislation restoring the human right for all adult adopted people born in Massachusetts, access to their original birth certificates (OBC). The meeting will be held on August 15th, from 6:30 PM - 8:00 PM, at the Cambridge Family and Children's Services office at 60 Gore Street, Cambridge, MA 02141 (close to Lechmere station).


Members of ACCESS MASSACHUSETTS believe that Massachusetts law that prevents adult adopted people born after July 14th, 1974 and before January 1st, 2008 access to their OBC is discriminatory.  It also denies them of a human right that all other citizens in Massachusetts enjoy and that is the right to go to the vital records office and obtain a non-certified copy of their original, unamended birth certificate.  


ACCESS MASSACHUSETTS believes it's time for the Massachusetts legislature to restore the human right for all Massachusetts born adult adopted people to obtain non-certified copies of their original birth certificates.   


The legislation supported by ACCESS MASSACHUSETTS, has precedence in a number of states. Most recently New Hampshire (2005), Maine (2007) and Rhode Island (2011) have passed legislation restoring the human right for all adult adopted people born in their states to obtain a non-certified copy of their original birth certificate.  In these states an overwhelming majority of legislators voted in favor of restoring the human right to its native born adult adopted people to obtain their OBC.  New Hampshire became the 5th state, Maine the 6th state and Rhode Island the 7th state in the U.S. to allow all of its adult adopted people to access their original birth certificate along with Alabama, Alaska, Kansas, and Oregon. 


ACCESS MASSACHUSETTS recommends the following legislation become law which respects the rights of adult adopted people to obtain their original birth certificate as well as respecting the rights of birth parents to express their desire for contact from their biological children.


At the age of 18 all adult adopted people can request a non-certified copy of their original birth certificate by filling out a Preadoption Birth Record Application Form and send it to the Vital Records Office. The new law will allow a birth parent to fill out a Contact Preference Form to express their desire for contact with their biological child in one of the following three ways:

  • I would like to be contacted
  • I would like to be contacted but through an intermediary of my choosing, i.e. the placing agency, personal friend, etc.
  • I do not want to be contacted.

Additionally, birth mothers can fill out a family Health History Form which will be filed with the adopted person's OBC and given to the adult adopted person when they request a copy of their original birth certificate.


 ACCESS MASSACHUSETTS is actively looking for new members across the State of Massachusetts who are willing to work to change Massachusetts's law to allow adult adopted people to access their original birth certificate.  If this is legislation you would like to support please contact Dr. Joyce Maguire Pavao, an adopted person at [email protected], Cindy McGuigan, a birth mother from West Bridgewater, MA, at 774-259-2172 or at [email protected] or Paul Schibbelhute, a birthfather, at 603-930-2091 or at [email protected]  


ACCESS MASS---It's the Right Thing to Do----


Don't miss Zara's new play!!!

Beneath My Fathers' Sky

Written and Performed by Zara Phillips, NEW JERSEY


Tue 11/12 7:30pm

drama, comedy, storytelling, music, musical, 50 min.


After her adoptive mother dies and she's left to care for an adoptive father who was never there for her, Zara takes a dream-like journey that brings her face-to-face with the biological father she's always longed to know and the sister who was never born. Directors: Eliza Roberts and Eric Roberts. Producer and Co-director: William Kollar. Composer: Zara Phillips. Acting Coach: Renae Baker. Photo by Andrew Cohen. Recommended for: teenagers, adults, elderly, theatre community, any member of the adoption triad or anyone that has lost a parent and dealing with an elderly parent. Link: artist.


2013 United Solo, the world's largest solo theatre festival, presents 121 productions! All shows are staged at Theatre Row: 410 West 42nd Street, New York City. TICKETS, with a price of $18, are available at the Theatre Row Box Office and online through Telecharge at You may also call Telecharge at 212-239-6200. When placing your reservation, please provide: the FESTIVAL name (United Solo Theatre Festival), the name of THEATRE (Theatre Row - The Studio Theatre), and the specific DAY and TIME of SHOW you would like to see.  


S & H:$3.00


Ways and Means Committee Releases Draft Proposal to Extend and Improve Adoption Incentives Program

Ways and Means Committee Releases Draft Proposal to Extend and Improve Adoption Incentives Program
Lawmakers Encourage Public to Comment on Draft Adoption Legislation That Improves Opportunities to Place Foster Children in Permanent Homes; Action Expected in September
Wednesday, August 07, 2013 

The public is encouraged to submit comments on the draft legislation by email at [email protected]
The public is also encouraged to submit comments regarding the 

Guardians for Children Act (H.R. 2979), related legislation introduced by Rep. Doggett that clarifies the treatment of successor guardians under the Guardianship Assistance Program.

On August 7, the Ways and Means Committee released draft legislation to extend and improve the Adoption Incentives program.  The draft legislation was developed based on testimony received at a Human Resources Subcommittee hearing earlier this year.  

What's your perspective for ensuring that policies are in place to ensure children are in safe, loving and permanent homes?  Share your thoughts and your comments to any of the proposals listed below by email at [email protected] no later than August 30, 2013. Click Here


I have had many consultations regarding ART 

and Donor Conception:

How to talk to kids

The following are a few good resources:


A Different Story (This is a DVD by the Donor Conception Network. It is a film interview featuring individuals that were donor conceived.  They are children ages 7-19)


The Family Book by Todd Parr

My Story by Jane Offord & Angela Mays

I Love My Family by Tammy Troute-Wood & Brent Gough

The Pea That Was Me by Kimberly Kluger-Bell

Hope and Will Have a Babyby Irene Celcer


We always respect and admire the work of Dr. Bruce Perry.  Here are some of his words of wisdom:

Dr. Bruce Perry with the ChildTrauma Academy talks about the brain being fully organized by age 3. That means that the experiences that occur within the first 3 years of a child's life carry more weight in the developing brain.


If a child lays in a crib, crying, and seeking comfort with no response, that child "learns" that she cannot rely on others to meet her needs. This becomes a formative experience that imbeds in a child's brain and helps that child formulate "people are not safe."


Although our perception may be that a child is in fact safe, all of his basic needs are met and he lives in a loving home, these experiences before the age of 3 are driving the child's 

behaviors, responses, and feelings. Think about the early years of your child...


Traumatized, Abused, Neglected Children |

Creating Safety for Traumatized, Abused, Neglected Children

Maisie ...





Maisie.... Is our new ninja cat. 

She loves screen time and may appear on some of our Vlogs...

You never know!



Dr. Joyce Maguire Pavao
220 Concord Ave.
Cambridge, MA 02138 
617 547 0909