For many people, summertime does not necessarily equate with easy living. Many of our families, with children who have suffered early trauma, have a difficult time with all of the transitions that are a part of new camps, new summer programs, vacations etc.
For our children, who have early trauma histories, transitions are triggers and can therefore result in some behavioral issues and some emotional setbacks.
Remember that children are not 'doing' this to you. They are reacting to very complex feelings in their bodies that remind them of a hard time - it may have been pre- or peri-natal, pre-cognitive, or in another language- but it is real.
Summertime at PACT
(Pre/Post Adoption Consulting and Training)
has been busy so far.
- We are working with families who are mediating, or re-mediating relationships with birth families and working toward more openness to prevent 'surprise' connections by minors on Facebook, or Google.
- We are working with families who want to know if the behaviors of their children are normal for their age, and are they about adoption?
- We are working with parents who want coaching and support in navigating best parenting practices for children with trauma, or who may need help in conveying difficult and complex stories to their children.
- We are working with adult adopted people who are wanting to learn more about their origins, and hoping to search for themselves and also sometimes, for their children's sake.
- We are working with birth parents who have received contact from a child placed long ago, or not so long ago, for adoption and who need help to manage their feelings and to tell people in their lives in order to pave the way for possible new relationships.
- We are working with relatives who are raising children from another family member and dealing with summer events where the whole family is together, and perhaps not clear about roles and responsibilities.
- We are working with lawyers who are trying to learn as much as they can to help their client who is dealing with adoption related issues and confusion.
- We are working with families where the children are from donors and where the story is even more complex to explain, and yet the truth must be told.
This is just a tiny tip of the iceberg of what complex blended families need to have some consulting and coaching on- in order to be strong and healthy
We are doing several consultations per week, and doing some coaching of professionals, and coaching of parents.
Attached you will find flyers -
- About our coaching for parents and professionals
- About our couple and family 15k mile check ups
- About our year-long training for adoption sensitive therapists in NYC to begin in September
- About other new initiatives that are underway through PACT
All of these can be done live (the best), by skype, or by phone and we work with people from all over the globe.
Pavao Consulting also does consulting and coaching for non-adoption related families, executives and managers, small businesses, corporations, and nonprofits.
We are growing our business, and look forward to any referrals that you might have, and any help in getting the word out.
Please Forward the Attached Flyers and Help Us to Expand!
Certificate Program in Adoption Therapy
(additional info for NY training to come)
Dr. Pavao presented in Tom Cottle's course on Children at Risk at Boston University in the spring, she presented at a course on Adoption at Mt. Holyoke College in So. Hadley and at a forum at UMass. Amherst for the Rudd Research Center on Adoption.
She did an institute and keynote for professionals at the American Adoption Congress in Denver Colorado and presented a workshop for participants at the same conference. She presented at Harvard Medical School at a conference on Child-Centered Practice.
Dr. Pavao is working on a new version of her award winning book, The Family of Adoption and is working on two other books.