We are all well aware that kids have certain superpower capabilities when it comes to overhearing things we wish they hadn't, and in cases of divorce and separation it becomes vital that parents be vigilant to the whereabouts of their children when they feel the inevitable need to vent about some co-parenting frustration. However, how are you supposed to handle those circumstances that are beyond your control, when your child has been deliberately told things by their other parent that they shouldn't be told?
Sadly, all too often in cases of divorce and separation one parent may say things about the other parent to the child that cause a great deal of hurt and confusion. It can be very challenging to know how to respond appropriately in a way that will not fuel the fire or increase your child's anxiety, but will at the same time address the accusation.
This online article from HuffPost
came across our desk recently at Kids First
and we felt it portrayed some real-life scenarios in a matter-of-fact manner that may be very helpful for parents searching for the right language for diffusing these difficult moments.
Other than the use of the term "ex," (where Kids First
prefers to use co-parent), and the obvious fact that really successful co-parenting means being able to talk about these loaded situations with your co-parent, we think you may find this article very helpful.