If your spouse or partner has broken your agreement of monogamy by having an affair outside of your relationship, you probably feel very hurt. The lingering wounds from being cheated on can be debilitating.  Please read on as there is hope and a wonderful solution so that you do not continue to carry the pain of the past.

A number of issues may surface as a result of your partner violating your trust by venturing outside of the relationship.  Betraying one's partner is always traumatic to the relationship.  The anger, mistrust and deep hurt that result affects both people, including the person who is acting out.  He or she is affected negatively even though this might not be evident right away.

Over the years, the clients I have worked with who have experienced infidelity tend to experience a number of emotional symptoms.  If not dealt with in a timely manner, these can start to manifest as physical and medical problems as any prolonged stress eventually takes it's toll on the physical body.
Some of the more common issues I see with clients who have experienced a major betrayal by their partner are the following:
                                                                                                             
          EMOTIONAL:

• Depression
•  Abandonment 
• Feelings of deep hurt & betrayal
• Anger/Rage
• Mistrust and suspicion of their partner/spouse
• Desire to get even
• Difficulty trusting a partner in future relationships

 

          PHYSICAL:  

• Chronic fatigue & low energy
• Physical aches and pains that seem unexplainable
• Digestive Issues  (unable to 'digest' what has transpired)
• Back pain (lack of support by partner)
• Skin eruptions (bottled up rage at partner) 
• Heavy heart, - (eventually, can become heart disease).             (with many of the clients I work with who have heart issues, I find that the root cause of their physical condition is almost always a broken heart.)

Those who cheat on their significant other often do this because they have an unconscious fear of sustained intimacy.  This fear makes it difficult for them to achieve and maintain a deep and honest commitment to another person.

The temporary relief they may feel when they cheat typically does not last.  And for some who are in an addictive pattern of cheating, cheating can create a high like one might get from a drug.  Either way, cheaters often feel guilt and shame, knowing that what they did is wrong.   

 

Moving forward after the core issues are cleared, the perpetrator becomes capable of achieving and sustaining intimacy with his partner.   

 

In addition to working with clients individually, I also work with couples who have been affected by infidelity.  As a result of helping them to understand and then clear each of their issues, (causes and effects),  as a couple, they are then able to achieve and maintain a relationship built on mutual love, trust and respect.