Message from P'taah
Sexual Desire
October 2015
Q: P'taah, could you talk a bit about sexual desire and how we get so caught up with it and what is that related to?
P'taah: All right. You know, that which is the component of fulfilling sexual desire is in fact not so much about the sensation but rather fulfilling, if we could say, an ideal. We have said many times before that whatever the issues are, that is the issues around lack, around 'not enough', around powerless, etc. as these issues show up in the day-to-day life, of course, because sexuality is not a separate component or facet of you, this will show up in your sexual life. So that where you would feel that you are powerless, very often, that fear of powerlessness will show up in sexuality either by being used in a sexual fashion or by being the user or abuser, or by using sexuality to validate who you think you are not. So sexuality is not so straightforward because it really depends upon your own issues.
Q: Yes.
P'taah: So it may become obsessive where the nature of the feeling of lack becomes stronger, or in fact where you have an obsessive nature about things anyway, or even addictive.
Q1: So, P'taah, I haven't had a real sexual relationship in a long time and I'm terrified. What is the best way to work through all that fear and have something that's beautiful and wonderful?
P'taah: Well, beloved, you know, even that has nothing to do with sexuality but rather the terror of being caught in another relationship which does not serve you.
Q1: Ah, that's very true.
P'taah: If you would have a sexual relationship which is just play without the entanglements of relationship, how would that feel to you?
Q1: Ah, I think that would be a very nice starting point.
P'taah: Indeed, but you see, it is not that is not where you have been beforetime.
Q1: No, No.
P'taah: Because in your society, in your time-frame, the idea of simply having sexual relationships as play, as fun, even as loving friendship without further entanglement, is quite foreign. It has been especially considered that for woman to engage in this kind of play is not considered nice. In fact in your time there were specific labels for young women who in fact simply played quite loosely in the sexual arena.
Q1: Yes, there definitely were. I think there is enough of that stigma, if you will, in my consciousness that it might be more difficult than I would like to believe to get to that point, but it really has a huge appeal to me.
P'taah: Indeed, so on one hand, there is the desire to go and play and on the other, the terror of being stigmatized as being less than, so that is one for you to look at, beloved, hmm?
Q1: Because from what I understand, actually whatever relationship you bring forth is really just a mirror.
P'taah: Absolutely.
Q1: And so something there for me to look at. I accept that.
Q: P'taah, I mean I am having a problem with this whole thing at the moment myself. I am in a sexual relationship and I've found that I can go to that place where sexuality is not just play but it's like a meeting of Goddess/God, All-That-Is. but that makes it a very powerful exchange of energy.
P'taah: Beloved, that is sexuality at its most fulfilling and we would say, its grandest expression.
Q: Yes, but what I am finding is, and obviously it must be a reflection to me but I haven't quite seen how yet, but the other person isn't able to enter into such an intense... I mean they're feeling the intensity of the sexual connection, but to them it has to then be about who they are to me and their worthiness and my power/their power, so it's not always easy to find someone to...
P'taah: Correct, it is not because each of you comes from their own inner space. And, beloved, you have spent many years now really looking at who you are and we would say, working, although we do not like to use that word, on the issues that have driven your life beforetime. And so also we would comment on the courage that you have allowed yourself to unfold into this idea of your own grandeur, and seeing it not as personal power, but as an expression of your divine Sourceness.
Q: And I've attracted to me a relationship where the other person is not able to just relax into playing that game with me.
P'taah: Indeed, well you see because this one is indeed in the terror of lack, beloved and so it is only for you to remain steadfast in your own beingness.
Q: Yes.
P'taah: You see, and eventually to decide whether or not you will be in this relationship and allow your partner to be as she is in the relationship, you understand?
Q: I do.
P'taah: You see, you are not in the relationship to make things better for anybody else. You are in the relationship because you are in the relationship, and you bring all of who you are into the relationship, and how anybody else is, is not your business, in a way.
Q: I know, that's a very hard one for us.
P'taah: Indeed!