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TES Weekly
December 17- 23, 2013    

Rabbi's Message

12/17/13  - 14 Tevet 5774   

 

The Problem with Moments of Transformation

 

I recently read Nelson Mandela's 100-day speech in 1994, soon after he was elected South Africa's president. In it, Mandela spoke about the truth and reconciliation commission, but he also spoke about reconciliation is a larger sense - saying, if we take care of all South Africans, we'll experience a meaningful and lasting reconciliation. He also said that the work of reconciliation was just beginning. "This [the task of reconciliation and reconstruction, nation- building and development] is South Africa's challenge today. It will remain our challenge for many years to come."

 

It is tempting to look at the struggles that South Africa is currently mired in, and be cynical; to infer that what Mandela and his reconciliation work accomplished was profound in its reach, but fell short. What has it really changed? In fact, it is tempting to look at all deeply transformative moments that way, since the vast majority of these moments seem to fail to get an immediate return on their promise.

 

We are cynical about the Joseph story, as well, and the great reconciliation that takes place between the brothers and Joseph., when he reveals himself to them, weeping. The brothers are shocked and silent when he says, 'I am Joseph, your brother. Is my father still well?" Joseph comforts his brothers, not necessarily forgiving them, but clearly offering reconciliation. "Now, do not be distressed or reproach yourselves because you sold me hither; it was to save life that G-d sent me ahead of you."

 

We should not be chastised for being cynical. There are good reasons we might be. We mine the text for signs that the reconciliation is not real: we see that Joseph still calls Jacob, my father, that he gives more gifts to Benjamin, his full brother, than he does to the others, that he seems to want his father to see how great he's become. And when Jacob dies a little later on, the brothers are even more afraid that Joseph will change his mind and punish them. Mostly, we find it hard to believe that Joseph could really forgive his brothers, after what they did to him. It's our own resistance to this moment that comes to the fore.

 

The reconciliation is real, and the reconciliation is fragile. No doubt there are lingering feelings of recrimination, doubt, and pain that will never go fully away. Transformation takes time and forgiveness is a spectrum, rather than an absolute. The obstacles that follow are not evidence that transformation hasn't taken place; rather, this is what transformation tends to look like. And with any sea change, it takes years and even generations to heal in an integrative way - whether it is breaking the phenomenon of scarcity that dominates the "first family" in Genesis, or overcoming the legacy of apartheid in South Africa.

 

A transformation is not a magic wand. You can't transform things by fiat. But individuals and communities can make dramatic shifts in intention. Like Joseph does with his brothers. Like Nelson Mandela did in South Africa. Suddenly we can imagine a different resolution to something that previously felt intractable.

 

This Shabbat, we have two special offerings. Friday night, contact Sasha Borenstein to be placed at a Shabbat table near you for our special Shabbat Across the Valley. Saturday morning, come experience a unique and beautiful Shabbat service with Chazzan Bella, Sara Weber, Jeff Solomon, and myself. This special Contemplative Chant service starts at 10:00am.

 

L'shalom,



Rabbi Joshua Boettiger
Upcoming Services
Shabbat Across the Valley
Friday, December 20, 6:00 pm
Contemplative Chant Shabbat
Saturday, December 21, 10:00 am
Solstice Intergenerational Havdalah with potluck dinner
Saturday, December 21, 5:00 pm - 7:00 pm
This Week at TES
Torah Study every Tuesday at 6:30pm
Jewish Meditation
every Wednesday at 8:00am
Announcements
Winter Closure
Please note that TES offices and Shul will be closed from December 24 through January 1 for the annual winter closure. The office will be open on Monday, December 23 from 10:00am - 3:00pm if you should need anything. We bid you all a warm, safe and wonderful holiday season. Please see below for Shabbat and other gatherings coming up.

January Calendar
There have been a few changes to our schedule for January, as follows: 
- Jan. 3: There will be a Kabbalat Service on Friday, Jan. 3 at 6:00pm (the weekend of Molly Bloom's Bat Mitzvah)
- Jan. 16: Adult Tu B'Shevat Seder will be at Sasha Borenstein and Russ Hannan's home at 730 Park Street, Ashland at 7:30 pm
- Jan. 17: There will be no Shabbat Service on Friday, Jan. 17
- Jan. 18: There will be morning Shabbat Service at 10:00am, preceded by Torah Study at 9:00am

Please visit our website via this link for more details and to view the entire calendar. 

Shabbat Across the Valley, Dec. 20th, 6:00 pm
Spots are still available in various homes, and we are also still in need of host families. If you'd like to participate our second Shabbat Across the Valley, please contact Sasha Borenstein at (541) 326-7861 or balichi.1@gmail.com as soon as possible.

Do you have fond memories of Shabbat dinners - good food, blessing the candles and the wine, singing Shabbat Shalom, laughing and talking about the significant events of the week?

Different TES Households in Medford, Talent, Phoenix and Ashland are opening their homes to co-create a bountiful, warm, Shabbasdik meal and evening. A neighborhood cluster of people, who may or may not know each other well, who want to share and enhance the community spirit of our shul, will go to the host homes for a potluck dinner in this great opportunity to get to know one another!

Special Temple Emek Shalom Grants Pass Event, Sunday, Dec. 22, 10:00 - 11: 30 am
Join us at Felicia Cohen and David Smith's home for brunch and learning with Rabbi Boettiger, who will be teaching on "What is Jewish About The Winter Solstice?" Brunch will be served and there will be a chance to connect to other Jewish individuals and families in the Grants Pass region. We'll also discuss how TES can meet the needs of its membership living north of Medford. Please join us and invite others to join us. The gathering will be from 10:00am - 11:30am. David and Felicia's address is 932 Palomino Drive in Grants Pass (about 45 minutes from Ashland).

Vocal Lessons by TES Member, Pat O'Scannell
Professional musician and singer presents a class suitable for beginners or accomplished singers. Using Rounds, Catches and Cannons from other time period and places, Pat O'Scannell leads the group in singing beautiful rounds, while inserting juicy facts about singing, and imparting technical information about the Art of Singing. If you love to sing rounds, and possibly learn a bit about singing, this is the class for you. Class will be held on Tuesday afternoon in the TES library from 1:45-2:45, and will resume in January. Please contact Pat O'Scannell at pato@opendoor.com to sign up for the next series of classes, while you can! No previous experience necessary, no music reading skills are required, just your warm, glowing spirit and the desire to sing! 
  
Honor Family and Friends with a Gift to TES
You can easily and quickly make donations to all funds, to remember and honor family, friends and loved ones. Visit the donation page and see the possibilities. Click here  
Adult Education
Beginner's Hebrew starting soon!
There is still room in our new Beginner's Hebrew class! Sasha Borenstein is excited to offer a weekly class on Mondays, 7:00 - 8:00 pm, starting on January 13. The class will run 4-6 weeks, and will use a new method of language learning. Class will be fun, active and participatory. Sasha has many years (decades!) of teaching experience and skills in making Hebrew accessible to all.  Fees will be $5 per class for TES members, $10 per class for non-members, plus a $20 materials fee. Contact Sasha for more information: balichi1@gmail.com.  To register for the class, contact the TES office at (541) 488-2909 or office@emekshalom.org. Pre-registration is highly recommended as class size will be limited.
Social Action Opportunities
Maslow Project Collection Basket in the Lobby
We are still collecting items for the Maslow Project (assistance for homeless children and youth) in a basket in the TES lobby.  Items needed are toiletries/personal hygiene supplies, school supplies, clothing, socks, backpacks, etc. (a wish list is attached to the basket if you'd like to see what is needed.) Thank you!

Remember To Bring Food Donations

There is an ongoing need for food at the Ashland Emergency Food Bank. Please bring non-perishable food items into the Temple anytime during office hours, Tues. - Fri., 10:00 AM to
4:00 PM, or on days when there are services.  Thank you!
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Quick Links

Services This Week
Shabbat Across the Valley
Friday, Dec. 20, 6:00 pm
Contemplative Chant Shabbat

Saturday, Dec. 21, 10:00 am

Solstice Intergenerational Havdalah with potluck dinner 

Saturday, Dec. 21, 5:00 pm   

Special Grants Pass Outreach Event

Sunday, Dec. 22, 10:00am (see below for details) 

Temple Emek Shalom | 541-488-2909 | http://emekshalom.org


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