The Companion

Weekly E-Bulletin of
Rockhurst University's Campus Ministry

May 5, 2013
Grads . . .

As you prepare to take leave of the Nest, we pause to celebrate the gifts of your years at Rockhurst, to savor the present, and to offer our prayers for your future.  We couldn't be more grateful for the countless ways that you have contributed your gifts for the good of our RU community and the world.  We cannot wait to see the myriad ways in which you continue to embody the Jesuit ideal of women and men for and with others, always striving for the magis.  You are gift on gift on gift, Hawks!


We look forward to celebrating with you at tonight's 6pm Mass, which will include a special senior send-off, at tomorrow's (Monday) cookout at the CMC and, of course, at Friday's baccalaureate. 

Campus Ministry BBQ
Attention, all students:
Baccalaureate Choir Practices
 Warm up your vocal chords in an effort to praise God and celebrate the graduating seniors!  The baccalaureate choir will practice during the following days and times:  
Tuesday, May 7th 2:30-3:30 in the Mabee Chapel
Thursday, May 9th Dress Rehearsal 2:30-3:30 at St. Francis Xavier 
Baccalaureate is at 2pm on Friday, May 10th at St. Francis Xavier.
A (brief and incomplete) glance at your years in Campus Ministry . . . 
Guidelines to Live By - Revisited
by Ronald Rolheiser

Twenty-five years ago, I wrote a column entitled, Guidelines for the Long Haul. Revisiting it recently, I was encouraged that my principles haven't swayed during the past quarter-century, only taken on more nuance. I still recommend those same commandments, nostalgically revisited, somewhat redacted, but fully re-endorsed:


1) Be grateful...never look a gift universe in the mouth!


Resist pessimism and false guilt. To be a saint is to be warmed by gratitude, nothing less. The highest compliment you can give a gift-giver is to thoroughly enjoy the gift. You owe it to your Creator to appreciate things, to be as happy as you can. Life is meant to be more than a test. Add this to your daily prayer: Give us today our daily bread, and help us to enjoy it without guilt.


2) Don't be naive about God... God will settle for not less than everything!


God doesn't want part of your life, God wants it all. Distrust all talk about the consolation of religion. Faith puts a rope around you and takes you to where you'd rather not go. Accept that virtue will give you a constant reminder of what you've missed out on. Take this Daniel Berrigan counsel to the bank: "Before you get serious about Jesus, consider carefully how good you're going to look on wood!"


3) Walk forward when possible...or at least try to get one foot in front of the next!


See what you see, it's enough to walk by. Expect long periods of confusion. Let ordinary life be enough for you. It doesn't have to be interesting all the time. Take consolation in the fact that Jesus cried, saints sinned, Peter betrayed. Be as morally stubborn as a mule; the only thing that shatters dreams is compromise. Start over often. Nobody is old in God's eyes; nothing is too late in terms of conversion. Know that there are two kinds of darkness you can enter: the fearful darkness of paranoia, which brings sadness, and the fetal darkness of conversion, which brings life.


4) Pray...that God will hang on to you!


Distrust popularity polls. Trust prayer. Prayer grounds you in something deeper. Be willing to die a little to be with God since God died to be with you. Let your heart become the place where the tears of God and the tears of God's children merge into the tears of hope.


5) Love...if a life is large enough for love it's large enough!


Create a space for love in your life. Consciously cultivate it. Know that nothing can be loved too much. Things can only be loved in the wrong way. Say to those you love: "You, at least, shall not die!" Know there are only two potential tragedies in life: Not to love and not to tell those you love that you love them.


6) Accept what you are...and fear not, you are inadequate!


Accept the human condition. Only God is whole. If you're weak, alone, without confidence, and without answers, say so; then listen. Accept the torture of a life of inadequate self-expression. There are many kinds of martyrdom. Recognize your own brand. If you die for a good reason, it's something you can live with!


7) Don't mummify...let go, so as not to be pushed!


Accept daily deaths. Don't seize life as a possession. Possessiveness kills enjoyment, kills relationships, and eventually kills you. Let go gracefully. Name your deaths, claim your births, mourn your losses, let the old ascend, and receive the spirit for the life you're actually living. Banish restless daydreams; they torture you. Keep in mind that it's difficult to distinguish a moment of dying from a moment of birth.


8) Refuse to take things yourself a fool regularly!


God's laughter fills the emptiness of our tombs. Keep in mind that it's easy to be heavy; hard to be light. Laughter is a direct insult to the realism, dignity, and austerity of hell. Don't confuse sneering with laughter. Laugh with people, not at them. Laugh and give yourself over to silliness; craziness helps too, as does a good night's sleep.


9) Stay within the family ... you're on a group outing!


Don't journey alone. Resist the temptation to be spiritual, but not religious. Be "born again", regularly into community. Accept that there are strings attached. The journey includes family, church, country, and the whole human race. Don't be seduced by the lure of absolute freedom. Freedom and meaning lie in obedience to community: community humbles, deflates the ego, puts you into purgatory, and eventually into heaven.


10) Don't be afraid to go soft...redemption lies in tears!


All of Jesus' teaching can be put into one word: Surrender. If you will not have a softening of the heart you will eventually have a softening of the brain. Hardness pulls downward. Softness rises. A bird can soar because a bird is soft. A stone sinks because it's hard. Fragility is force. Sensitivity defines soul. Tenderness defines love. Tears are salt water, the water of our origins.  

Question of the Week

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This Week's Question:   There isn't one.  Stay tuned for Augsut!
Last Week's Answer:  Fr. Peter Hans Kolvenbach, SJ, the former Superior General of the Society of Jesus, is the person whose quote is etched onto the bell tower.


Send your answer to Cindy Schmersal by 9:00am on Wednesday.  Of those students who respond, one will be chosen at random to receive a free (and delicious!) twister from the Pub.  The winner will be announced in the following week's bulletin.
Last week's winner is . . . Josh Goralski
A Prayer 

This is our hope for every member of Hawk Nation: graduates, current students, faculty, staff, alumni, benefactors, etc . . .


May all find such a sense of love, and may it truly decide everything.




Pedro Arrupe, SJ, wrote . . .

Nothing is more practical than finding God,

that is than falling in love in a quite absolute, final way.

What you are in love with,

what seizes your imagination,

will affect everything. 

It will decide what will get you out of bed in the morning,

what you do with your evenings,

how you spend your weekends,

what you read,

who you know,

what breaks your heart,

and what amazes you with joy and gratitude.

Fall in love, stay in love,

and it will decide everything.

In This Issue
Year-end BBQ
Baccalaureate Choir
Through the Years
Words of Wisdom
Question of the Week
A Prayer
This Week in
Campus Ministry


Sunday, May 5th

6pm: Student Mass and Blessing of Graduates(SFX)


Monday, May 6th

11:30am-1:30pm: BBQ (CMC)

12noon: Mass (MC)

10:10pm: Mass (MC)


Tuesday, May 7th

12noon: Mass (MC)

2:30pm: Baccalaureate Choir Practice (MC)


Wednesday, May 8th

12noon: Mass (MC)

10:10pm: Mass (MC)


Thursday, May 9th

12noon: Mass (MC)

2:30pm: Baccalaureate Choir Dress Rehearsal (SFX)

10:10pm: Mass (MC)


Friday, May 10th

12noon: Mass (MC)

2:00pm: Baccalaureate Mass (SFX)


Good luck on finals, and have a glorious and blessed summer!

Don't forget to stop by and say "farewell" before you leave!

Need Prayer?


Email the Campus Ministry staff with your name and your intention, and we will happily hold you in prayer throughout the week.

Office of Campus Ministry
Massman 4 (lower level)
(816) 501-4063