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"Raising the Standard of Conversation in Life"
Dr. Loren EkrothLoren Ekroth, Ph.D.
 
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Native American Communication Wisdom
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This Week's Issue:
November 30, 2012

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Native American Communication Wisdom

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Today's Contents

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  1. Please Spread the Word
  2. Conversation Quotation
  3. Next book to read
  4. Word-a-Week
  5. Words of Inspiration
  6. Native American Communication Wisdom
  7. Please Post on Social Media
1.  Please Spread the Word
 

Please pass on "Better Conversations" to those in your network. I am grateful for your help to make the world a better place through better, more civil and meaningful conversation.

2. Conversation Quotation 

 

 

"Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thought nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together, certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and with a breath of kindness, blow the rest away."

 

Anonymous, Shoshone

 

3. Next Book to Read    

 

Bury My Heart at Wounded Knee, by Dee Brown, new illustrated edition, 2012

 

"First published in 1970, this extraordinary book changed the way Americans think about the original inhabitants of their country. Beginning with the Long Walk of the Navajos in 1860 and ending 30 years later with the massacre of Sioux men, women, and children at Wounded Knee in South Dakota, it tells how the American Indians lost their land and lives to a dynamically expanding white society."

4.  Native American "loan words"

U.S. English words with Native American Origins

 

kayak, from the Alaskan Yupik "qayaq"

moccasin, from the Virginia Algonquian

 

 

moose, from the Eastern Abenaki "mos" 

 

akamai (clever, smart.) from Hawaiian pidgin

 

5.  Words of Inspiration

 

"The sun shines not on us but in us. The rivers flow not past, but through us, thrilling, tingling, vibrating every fiber and cell of the substance of our bodies, making them glide and sing." -- John Muir

6.  Native American Communication Wisdom

Each year, November is Native American Heritage Month. Today's issue honors that month on its final day.

 

The Library of Congress, National Archives and Records Administration, National Endowment for the Humanities, National Gallery of Art, National Park Service, Smithsonian Institution and United States Holocaust Memorial Museum join in paying tribute to the rich ancestry and traditions of Native Americans.

 

Most Europeans who came to America thought that its indigigenous people, whom they labeled "savages," didn't have much to offer the white man. They were profoundly wrong.

 

Here are a few things the newcomers could have learned from the Native Americans regarding communication. 

  1. The value of silence in communication.

 

"Silence was meaningful with the Lakota, and his granting a space of silence before talking was done in the practice of true politeness and regardful of the rule that 'thought comes before speech.'

 

And in the midst of sorrow, sickness, death, or misfortune of any kind, and in the presence of the notable and the great, silence was the mark

of respect. More powerful than words was silence with the Lakota."

 

"No one was quick with a question, no matter how important, and on one was pressed for an answer. A pause giving time for thought was the truly courteous way of beginning and conducting a conversation."

 

--Chief Luther Standing Bear, Teton Sioux

 

2. Careful and sparing use of words

 

"It does not require many words to speak the truth."

 

--Chief Joseph, Nez Perce

 

3. One's spoken word is one's bond.

 

"Many of the white man's ways are past our understanding . . .They put a great store upon writing; there is always a paper.

 

The white people must think paper has some mysterious power to help them in the world. The Indian needs no writings; words that are true sink deep into his heart, where they remain. He never forgets them. On the other hand, if the white man loses his papers, he is helpless."

 

--Four Guns, Oglala Sioux

 

4. The Way of Council

 

"Where I sit is Holy.

Holy is the Ground

Forest, mountains, rivers

Listen to the Sound

Great Spirit Circling

All around me."

 

--Native American Chant

 

Tribesmen met regularly in a circle, and no subject was out of bounds. They followed the ancient tradition of the "Talking Stick" or "Prayer Stick" and recognize that whoever is holding the sacred stick has the floor and has a sacred duty to tell the truth. Others listen without judgment or interruption. It is up to the speakers to ask for input if they want it. From time to time, "Council" accommodates periods of silent reflection with no words spoken.

 

5. Ho'oponopono, ancient Hawaiian group practice of forgiveness and reconciliation. (Also practiced in other Polynesian cultures.)

 

Literally, "to set right again." In application, it is a process of mental cleansing through family conferences, usually led by a respected elder and accomplished through prayer (pule), discussion, confession, repentance, mutual restitution and forgiveness.

 

Author's note: When I practiced family therapy in Honolulu, I learned and applied the processes of ho'oponopono with excellent results with

non-Hawaiian clients. It was also widely used by social workers in Hawaii. For any reader wishing to learn more, consult the excellent book by Victoria Shook, "Shook: Ho'oponopono," available at Amazon.com.

 

Much more communication wisdom is available from the Native American cultures, such as the use of non-verbal symbols to communicate significant meanings. That essay must wait until a later time.

7. Please Post on Social Media
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Conversation in Life."  Many thanks.

Loren Ekroth �2012, all rights reserved

 

Loren Ekroth, Ph.D. is a specialist in human communication and a national expert on conversation for business and social life. 

 

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