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july 15, 2016 

reflection section
why is she happy?

A facebook friend in Australia recently posted:


and immediately some of her friends asked "why?" Her husband commented, "Certainly nothing that I've done."

Wait, does this girl need a reason to feel happy? Does she need her man to make her feel happy? Can't she just feel happy and that's that - no questions? [It's as if people are thinking: "Uh oh, happiness alert! Someone is feeling happy! Not allowed! We can't have that, now can we, since we feel so miserable!" [that is happiness jealousy]

Certainly no other person can MAKE her feel happy, not her husband, not her friends, not her child, because remember ... happiness is an INSIDE JOB.

And more possible than we realize.

BE HAPPY. FEEL HAPPY. Period. The feeling is a choice.

Certainly, I had to pipe up on the post: "Why do people ask why? It is possible to JUST BE HAPPY. Atta girl, L." 
 
And she answered: "Exactly Suzanna. And I figure the more you tell yourself you are happy, the more you ARE happy! You are what you think."

Atta girl again. What if her happy sentence is her mantra? "I am so happy. I am so happy. I am so happy."

Try it. (Wait, there is no try - there is only do.)

Do it.
 
It's a given that an unpleasant something will assuredly come along and try to zap your happy. Most of the time it is us zapping it ourselves. So many times we stand in our own way of being happy! Bottom line is we are in control of the feeling. Or any other feeling.
  
If we choose happiness, it is ours. If we choose grumpiness, it's ours. If we choose sarcasm, it's ours. If we want to play victim, that is ours, too. Joy, jealousy, peaceful, glum, fearless, miserable. You name it ... you claim it.

Why is she happy? Because she chooses to be.  
 
 
     
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reactions to July 8 snippet:
give people a chance

SNIPPETEERS - feel free to comment as well on any of the snippeteers' reactions you read weekly ... and just a friendly reminder to keep emails brief so we can republish all! 
 
"Bravo! Some of the best people that I know are people that I initially thought that I wouldn't like. Yes, indeed, give people a chance. Nice that you brought this one up. Keep up your good works, my friend!"
~ Geri in MD 

"I feel like the person who has always been prejudged, maybe because of my husband or when I am nervous meeting new people, I tend to talk too fast and (I'm told) too much. I have no brothers or sisters and only one long-term friend, so when we went somewhere new, I was totally new, with no one at my back. I only hung out with extended family. In early school, we moved to a neighborhood that was totally into 'clicks' and I wasn't allowed, so I spent a lot of time alone. We moved again and for the first time I was in public school and had no idea how to 'dress,' so I was alone.  High school - same - people I knew, but no real friends. It has continued into adulthood.  
     Even when my kids were in school, I was never friends with any of the moms. They talked to me until one of their friends came around and most of the time would just turn their back to me and start talking to their friend. I ask people if they'd like to have lunch and it seems like everyone runs in the other direction and has something way better than sharing an hour or so with me. I even read on FB how some go to the restaurant about a minute down the street from me with 'some friends' and not one would ever think about even talking to me or asking me. I really wish someone would tell me what have I done all my life to deserve this. 
     So I think your little article hit something close to home - I try very hard not to prejudge but it seems somewhere, somehow I got a big red 'X' on my back that says don't hang with this one, because I did something, to someone, some time ago, so that I am ignored by all."
~ Karan in MD 

"Good Point Suz! I am pretty sure that I have been the recipient of this. There recently was an incident when I felt strongly that someone, whom I really care about, judged me harshly due to words from someone else. I do believe partly this was because of the breakup of my marriage ... I think you often 'lose' people when that happens. There are always opinions and those who will take sides. Anyway, as a result of this, I have kind of lost this person and it makes me sad.
     Although your point is to give people a chance who you may not really know ... I think it can also be applied to people who you think know you but are swayed or influenced by another's opinion. I try to make my own decision and draw my own conclusions based on real conversations and/or experiences with a person - whether I already know them or not."   
~ Cindi in MD  

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FOR healing of J's condition

FOR Mary M in PA going through chemo treatments

FOR Ed B in PA now in remission

FOR Paula W in PA to secure a teaching position for the fall

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suzanne molino singleton  
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