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 CARTMELL COMMUNITY CONNECTIONS
 Winter 2014 


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In This Issue
Pilgrim Church of Duxbury ... A Focus on Mission Outreach and Family
Hope Floats Healing & Wellness in Kingston provides Hope and Much More
FAQ: "I have trouble writing a condolence message on a sympathy card. Can you provide some guidance?"

 
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     During the months of January and February Cartmell Funeral Home is accepting food donations on behalf of the South Shore Community Action Council and the Greater Plymouth Food Warehouse.

 

     Those wishing to donate can deposit non-perishables and canned goods at our 150 Court Street location in Plymouth. Needed items include: paper products; canned fruits and vegetables; jar sauces and condiments; coffee, tea and dry milk; shampoos, soap, and toothpaste; cereal, crackers, croutons, and snacks; and macaroni & cheese, rice, peanut butter, and jelly.

 

     Cartmell Funeral Director, Kathy Cartmell-Sirrico said, "The Food Warehouse is a vital link for people in need and it depends on donations from people in the community to help those who benefit greatly from their services.  We at Cartmell Funeral Home are proud to play a small part in helping to keep the shelves of the Food Pantry well-stocked during the months following the holidays."

                       

 


Rev. Todd Vetter
The Rev. Todd Vetter.
 

Pilgrim Church of Duxbury
A Focus on Mission
Outreach and Family

 

 

  

    

  "My call to come to Pilgrim Church of Duxbury was partly because of my long history in mission outreach which began with my Dad and the fact that he was an engineer and spent a lot of time in developing countries," explained the Rev. Todd Vetter.

 

      Rev. Todd Vetter has been with Pilgrim Church for five years and prior to that he served as associate minister at the United Congregational Church in Orange, CT.  He spent three years in the Peace Corps in southern Africa where he taught high school English and math at a very small village school at the end of a very long dirt road in the Kingdom of Lesotho.  After returning to the US, he spent one year as an intern with the UCC's Office for Church in Society in Washington, D.C., researching the African AIDS pandemic and other issues related to international development.  He has been active in Habitat for Humanity for several years and organized church mission trips to the Gulf Coast in the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina. These experiences provided a connection to a congregation at Pilgrim Church which values mission outreach. 

 

     Rev. Todd explained, "Two men at Pilgrim had a history of mission work in Africa.  Chris Blake and Dan Hall went to Uganda and met with a non- governmental, community based organization that operated an orphanage and helped them to build another orphanage and school," Rev. Todd said.  "They were an inspiration to me and to the whole church." 

 

     Another couple in the church exemplifies the mission outreach philosophy of the congregation.  Lynn and Don DeHart work with the Children of Peace organization in Viet Nam.  "We are also quite involved with helping the people of the Philippines post Typhoon Hayian," Rev. Todd said.  Locally, the church started a Crop Walk event which raises money for the Church World Service to help feed the needy.  The Crop Walk began after World War II when farmers sent surplus food crops to war-torn countries.  Now the money raised goes to the Church World Service with 25% remaining in the community designated for local food pantries.

 

Emily Kellar

     While there is an emphasis on mission outreach, Rev. Todd's goals for the new year include a focus on strengthening family ministry.  The Pilgrim youth minister, Emily Kellar is currently in seminary and is working towards UCC ordination.  "She has been with Pilgrim Church for about three years and has an incredible energy which she funnels into our Sunday school," said Rev. Todd.  "A lot of young families come to Pilgrim Church for the kids and our Sunday School.  Now I want to focus on what we can do for the parents.  It isn't the easiest time to be a parent - both children and their parents are pulled in many directions.  We want to learn what we can do to make the church a central part of their lives."

 

     Rev. Todd continued, "Pilgrim Church is a friendly church.  People get a true and sincere sense of welcome when they come.  We want to know how to do it even better.  We are open and hospitable, but it is important that they know we appreciate that they chose to spend an hour or so with us.  We find that many people don't have a 'church experience' - they don't know the drill ... so it may be uncomfortable for them.  It takes a lot of courage to walk into a new church."

 

     Rev.Todd is married to Sarah Hare Vetter, a Methodist Pastor, currently serving as Interim Associate Minister at Old South Union Church in Weymouth.  They have two children: Matthew, age 7, and 5-year old Holly.  Their family includes dog Millie and Isabelle, their cat.  

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Hope Floats Healing & Wellness in Kingston Provides Hope and
Much More ...
  

 

 

   

     Hope Floats Healing & Wellness Center is a bereavement and educational center for people who are grieving, facing life challenges, and seeking to improve their physical and emotional well-being.

 

     Denise and Ken Brack created Hope Floats in 2008 after the death of their son, Michael.. They established a non-profit foundation and educational center in a restorative, retreat setting where people can deal with life struggles and improve their wellness. Having learned how such a loss can be devastating and isolating, the Bracks wanted to offer support and resources for others going through similar crises.  

 

     The mission remains focused on two core areas: providing counseling, free support groups and healing workshops to help people grieve or face other

struggles; and offering wellness classes and retreats with practitioners experienced in an array of mind-body-spirit healing arts. Hope Floats is located at 4 Elm Street in Kingston MA. Support groups include:

Loss of a Child Bereavement Groupwhich is open to any parent coping with the death of a child of any age. Sessions are held on Mondays from 4:00 pm -
5:30 pm.  
Partner/Spouse Bereavement Group which is open to anyone dealing with the loss of a partner or spouse. Sessions are held on Tuesdays, from 10:00 am -
11:30 am.  

Suicide Loss Bereavement Group which meets every other Monday from  

6:30 pm - 8:00 pm.   

Younger Partner/Spouse Bereavement Group is open to anyone dealing with the loss of a partner or spouse. Sessions are held on Wednesdays, from 6:30 pm - 8:00 pm.
 

     Support groups are free but require registration. Please call Denise Brack at 781-936-8068.

 

     In addition to regularly scheduled support groups, Hope Floats Healing & Wellness Center presents special events featuring well-known speakers on relevant topics. Denise said, "In February we are holding a special support retreat for mothers who have lost children. In March a similar one will be held for parents. These support retreats are multi-faceted and include use of our entire facility. There will be meditation, yoga, lunch, and mini-healing treatments of Reiki, Healing Touch, and chair massage by our certified and talented practitioners."

The Retreat for Moms Who Have Lost Children also includes time for group discussions and an opportunity to explore the peaceful grounds of Hope Floats. Saturday, February 8th 9 am - 4:30 pm. Registration is required - suggested donation $60 per person.

   

     In March Dave Kane returns to Hope Floats with his program:
41 Signs of
Dave Kane 
Hope. 
Dave is the father of Nicholas O'Neill, the youngest victim of the Station Nightclub fire in Rhode Island. Dave shares fascinating stories and intriguing evidence that life never ends. In his enlightening presentation of love and laughter, he explains that after receiving a barrage of signs, including vocal messages from his son Nicky, he is convinced that he has not "lost" his son. Instead he has been given the gift of a loving eternal connection with him. Sunday, March 2nd 2 pm - 3:30 pm; Registration required - suggested donation $20 per person.

 

     Denise says, "Dave's uplifting message is one of hope that are loved ones are still with us and are in a good place. This is Dave's third program at Hope Floats and his presentations benefit all who attend."

 

     During 2014 Hope Floats will sponsor several fund-raising events to help support continued programming. In May, a Memory Walk is planned - a 5K walk in memory of a loved one which will be open to all for a nominal fee and optional sponsorship by non-walkers and local businesses.  

 

     "In the fall of this year we are planning a special fund-raising dinner as well," Denise explained. "We have only just begun our planning, but it will be a joyous event open to anyone who believes in our mission and our programming that helps those who are grieving or facing other life challenges. Our mission is to help people cope with loss, support their healing, and nurture their physical and emotional well-being."

 

     Denise Brack welcomes phone calls from anyone seeking additional information about Hope Floats and its programming. Call 781-926-8068 or visit their website to learn more. 

 

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Frequently Asked Questions
"I have trouble writing a condolence message on a sympathy card.  
Can you provide some guidance?"

 

     Sometimes the hardest part of sending a message of sympathy is that words do not convey the comfort you wish to send to family, friends, or acquaintances during their time of sorrow. We want to sound sincere but find it difficult not to rely on clichés. Here are some guidelines that we are confident you will find useful: 

1)  No lengthy explanations of why you are writing are necessary. A simple intro statement is enough:   "I was deeply saddened when I learned about your Dad's passing."  

2)   Express your condolences. (You can refer to the person's death as a "loss.") Here are some examples: 
     "My heart goes out to you in your time of sorrow."
     "Please accept my sympathy for the loss of your grandfather."
     "As you grieve, know that we think of you and honor Pat's memory."
     "Our thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time."  
3)   Share a story or memory you have about the deceased. This shows how much their loved one meant to you and might give them a reason to laugh or smile. It is also fine to write about how much the person meant to you and that he/she will be missed. 
     "Carole was an inspiration to me. I will never forget her!"
     "Bob spent his life serving others. I am so thankful to have known him."  
4)   If a person's death followed a long illness or period of suffering, it is appropriate to acknowledge the illness.
     "I know that Bill suffered a great deal since his cancer diagnosis. I pray that you will find comfort in knowing that he is no longer in any pain."  
5)  If you want to offer assistance, don't be afraid to say so. Don't leave the offer open-ended - give specific ways you would be willing to help out.

     "In this stressful time, I would like to make a meal for your family/baby-sit your children/help you get ready for guests/watch the dog/shovel the walk .... 

6)  Select a sincere phrase to summarize your feelings as you close your message.  Choose one that is most appropriate for you.
     "You are in my thoughts and prayers,"
     "With deepest sympathy,"
     "He/she will never be forgotten,"
     "With heartfelt condolences,"
     "Our thoughts and prayers are with you,"
     "Thinking of you,"
     "(name's) memory will always be in our hearts,"
     "May God's grace strengthen you,"
     "May your heart and soul find peace and comfort,"

 

     The goal of expressing sympathy is to offer compassion and concern for the bereaved. The most important thing is to communicate is that you care and that you are available as a source of support. You might want to visit the My Deepest Sympathy, or Quick Condolence websites for more examples.

 

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