Today's Stimuli

September 27, 2014
DOING THE WORK
GETTING CLEAR
  
In our lives, there is so much about which we are challenged to be or get clear.  So, we are encouraging all of us to repeat this exercise.

It can be difficult to get clear about what you do want until you clear out what you don't want. Unfortunately, we can become so focused on what we don't want that we obscure what we truly desire. This week our work is about getting clear.
 
     
  
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CALLING IN
THE GOOD
  
 

Using a sheet of lined paper complete the following statement 9 times. 

  

"I don't want:

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Instead I choose: _________________________"


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In the spiritual perspective a boundary is a demonstration of self-respect and respect for others. A boundary is a structure, expectation, request or system put in place to define, prescribe, limit or exclude behavior, people, experiences, and or internal or external intrusions. A boundary makes and keeps us aware of how far we can go and how much we can do with and for an individual. It also makes us aware of what we can expect from and for another.
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The purpose of having boundaries is to protect and take care of ourselves. We need to be able to tell other people when they are acting in ways that are not acceptable to us. A first step is starting to know that we have a right to protect and defend ourselves. We have not only the right but the duty to take responsibility for how we allow others to treat us.

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It is impossible to have a healthy relationship with someone who has no boundaries, with someone who cannot communicate directly and honestly. Learning how to set boundaries is a necessary step in learning to be a friend to ourselves. It is our responsibility to take care of ourselves - to protect ourselves when it is necessary.
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A process to establish and/or maintain boundaries:

 

1. Inform others that the boundary exists and inform them when they have violated it.

2. Identify the properties of your boundaries (what are the definitions and parameters).

3. Create a consistent means of broadcasting the presence of the boundaries.

4. Instruct others as to how the boundary operates.

5. Remain aware of the process/action required to maintain the boundaries.

6. Inform others of the consequences of violating a boundary.

7. Warn others when they have or are about to violate the lines of a boundary.

8. Immediately activate the consequences when a boundary has been violated.

9. Be willing to forgive when a boundary is innocently or unknowingly violated.

10. Be willing to surrender the relationship for repeated violations of the boundaries.

11. Determine through practical experience whether or not the boundaries serve the intention for which they have been established.

 

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4 LEVELS OF HEALING    
 
 

Beloved Father Mother God,

 

I ask for and open myself to receive the deepest level of healing available in every aspect of my being.

 

I surrender all thoughts that limit me in any way. I let go of all doubt, self-judgment, fear, and resentment. In their place, I ask to be filled with thoughts of confidence, self-assurance, divine protection, and forgiveness.

 

I surrender feelings of anger, whether directed toward myself or another. I release feelings of despair and hopelessness.  

 

I lift up to be transmuted any sense of unworthiness or worthlessness. In their stead, I open myself to be filled with love and compassion for myself and every living thing. I allow in a strong and unwavering sense of wholeness and belonging. And, I embrace my connectedness to all life.

 

I release all images I have held in consciousness of physical dis-ease in any and all areas of my body. I claim vitality in every cell, organ, tissue, and all bodily systems.

 

I claim my divinity and my inheritance as the beloved of God. I know that I can never be separated from God's love no matter what I may hold in my thoughts or feeling nature. I claim my oneness with God and with all of God's beloveds.

 

I give thanks, dear God, for my divine connection with You.

 

I thank You, God, that You are a God of a second chance.

 

And So It Is.

 

Amen.

 

Rev. Dr. Iyanla Vanzant 

 

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I easily set boundaries with my

friends and acquaintances.

 

 

I recognize my personal boundaries and  honor the boundaries of others.

 

 

I create and maintain boundaries that protect and support me.

 

 

My time is valuable and I give myself permission to say no to activities that

take up treasured moments that I

 can use to care for myself.

 

 

I open myself to new opportunities,

stretch beyond my old boundaries

and grow into my magnificent self.

 

 

I am confident and strong as I set

clear boundaries for my life.

 

 

I am clear and respectful when

setting boundaries with others.

 

 

  


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BOUNDARIES are mental, emotional, or physical constructs that define or limit the area in which one is willing to be present.  The space or area in which one works, loves, or desires to be.


 

A lesson from Ken Kizer coach and member of the Inner Visions Institute faculty:

 
"When you don't have boundaries in your life, people will inject themselves into places in your life where you do not want them, and where they have no business being.  Boundaries are like drawing a line in the sand and saying, 'Beyond here I will not go and you cannot come.' The key is to be very clear and very committed to what you are willing to do if the line is crossed."

  

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A lack of boundaries will not only make your life uncomfortable, it helps other people in making their lives uncomfortable.


 

Where there are no boundaries the same bad decision has an opportunity to be repeated.


 

It is on [us] to draw the line in the sand.


 

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BOUNDARIES allow me to take care of myself.

 

BOUNDARIES enable others to take care of themselves.

 

BOUNDARIES create the freedom of choice.

 

To give, share, or support need not mean taking care of.

 

I can say no and still give love and support.


 

BOUNDARIES keep me in my divine, right space. 

  
 
Adapted from One Day My Soul Just Opened Up  
by
Iyanla Vanzant 
         
  
    
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Tapping the Power Within

The Wonder Woman Weekend

 

October 31st to November 2nd 2014

 

 

If you are wanting, struggling, trying to find a deeper, more meaningful purpose in life. If you are waiting for life to become the wondrous adventure you always dreamed it could be...The Wonder Woman Weekend is for you!  For more information click here. 

 

 

 

    

 

 Something for the Men  

 

 Doctors Say Walk This Way  

 

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Want to spend more time with a physician than you get from a rushed office visit? Walk with a Doc may be the answer.
  

The nationwide program features free 30-45 minute walks in parks and malls, led by doctor volunteers who chat with participants about health, fitness or life in general. More than 70% of the walkers are 50 or older.

 

 

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