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Greetings!
I lost my brother this July in a tragic accident. As a Medium I don't view death the same as most people. I work, speak and interact with the spirit world on a daily basis. It is hard to be sad about death when I know how well and wonderful our loved ones really are in spirit. When a spirit comes through to me and I see and feel how happy they are it is impossible to feel any kind of sadness for them. It takes a lot for me as a medium to even grieve. Until it hits close to home like in the case of my brother and his unexpected passing.
Many people have asked me, since I am a medium, whether I have had contact with my brother. The answer is a big YES! My brother's spirit started making contact with me and other members of the family right away. The first fews days and weeks of my grief were the heaviest. It was very hard and sad leading up to his memorial. I realized having a memorial or funeral for a loved one is as much for the living as it is for the person who passed. We needed the memorial probably more than my brother did.
There I was in the middle of my grief and his beautiful spirit kept showing up telling me little details of what he wanted for his service. He even sent messages though other people. My friends and clients contacted me and gave me messages from him. It was an amazing and yet surreal experience to have a foot in both worlds. To be in between grieving the loss of my brother and yet connecting with his spirit. I would be crying and sad one moment and then he would show up and say, "Don't trip sis, its all good." Exactly what he would say to me in life. Thankfully most of the family is open to spirit communication and so my brother was able to make contact with other family members and not just me. He even managed to convert some non believers who... well lets just say they thought I was a little out there. It was an amazing and validating experience for all of us.
My brother has delighted and dazzled us non stop with his spirit communication since his passing. I even had a personal reading with an amazing Medium in Utah and my brother came through holding a surf board telling her he has been surfing over there. Something he loved to do in this world. Those moments and connections do help with the grief, but as I tell my clients Mediumship is not a cure for grief. Grief is a physical process and something the body has to go through. I fully understand that statement now. My spirit is happy for my brother. My spirit knows he is back in the spiritual world with God. I can even wrap my mind around his random, sudden death. I actually think of him as lucky. He is done here in earth school. He has graduated! It's my body that is the saddest. My body feels the physical loss. The fact that I can not call him and hear his voice. That I will never physically hug or touch him again in this life. I miss him sitting on my couch playing with my sons. That is what my physical body grieves and brings me to tears in unexpected moments.
So Medium or not I have had to take time to honor that grief and allow myself to feel sad for how ever long it is going to take. I have even had to tell my brother's spirit to stop showing up and trying to make me feel better because I just need to be sad and cry right now. I had to remind him that I'm glad he's good, but that I still am in the human body and I need to grieve. He flashes me his bright, beautiful smile and says, "Ok I'm going surfing then, see you later. I tell him to have fun, I'm going to sit here and ride the waves of my grief."
For all of you who have experienced a loss of a loved one, I acknowledge and honor your grief and send you love and light.
Blessings,
MaryKay
Karma Psychic Boutique
530-894-5086
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