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Hello
This past week, a client and I parted ways.
A disappointing experience under any circumstance...the kind that has 'growth potential' written all over it.
In a healthy and forward looking way, the experience brought a level of introspective analysis by both parties that allowed business logic to prevail.
In a not-so-healthy and limiting way, I also allowed
my own personal GAIL's (
to bubble up and take control of the way in which I processed the loss. I found myself discounting the facts and giving credibility to things like interpretations, limiting beliefs, assumptions, and of course, my own inner critic.
This past week, my son made me proud.
In a deliberate effort to burn off the 'cloak of failure' that I seemed to be enveloped in, I hit the gym with the hopes of using endorphins to fight the GAIL's. While there, I was chatting with two guys engaged in a time boxed CrossFit workout.
When I wove into the conversation my son's ranking in the current 2013 Reebok CrossFit Games Regional standings, the one guy paused and respectfully asked "Are you Steve's Dad?". I said I was and he replied with testosterone-laden admiration: 'Damn, He's An Animal!'.
In that moment, the 'cloak of failure' slipped out of my mind and was replaced with a huge jolt of parental pride. My son and I both started Crossfit workouts together a few years ago where he quickly outperformed his 'old man' as his personal passion for the sport blossomed.
I take pride in the fact that I played some role in helping my boy find, nurture, and fund an interest that has enabled him to start creating a name for himself (even if it is 'animal') and will likely be his passionate vocation.
THE 'AND SENTENCE' COACHING TOOL
This past week, a client and I parted ways AND my son made me proud.
Both parts of the sentence are fact based. Both were validated externally. Both carry strong energetic charges. Both are the result of some factors that I have control of and some factors that I have absolutely no control of. Neither one part singularly defines my week.
The complete sentence brings balance and perspective.
The complete sentence allows for duality and complexity.
The complete sentence removes the 'cloak of failure' of the past week and opens me up to all the possibilities this week has in store.
Self Coaching Tip:
Don't let yourself get stuck in the first part of your own sentence this week. Be relentless in finding the second part...it is there, waiting to be found.
And don't underestimate the energizing power of the word 'AND'.
Greetings!
Mike
Mike Malinchok, Certified Executive Coach
ph: 215-341-9740
email: mmalinchok@verizon.net
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