Question of the Week
My mommy says you are the smartest man she knows. I would like to know why there is so much hate in the world.
-Jackie, age 8
 Hi Jackie, please thank your Mom for her kind words.
I am not that believes there is so much hate in the world. In fact, I believe the amount of love is thousands of times greater than the amount of hate. It is just a matter of what we focus on.
Here is what I mean. Stare at any one of the three dots in the picture above. Just stare at one, and only one. When you do so, what happens to the other two dots? They disappear, don't they?
Rare instances of hate can appear like stars against a black sky. They are bright and flashy, making it seem like there are a lot of them, and they get out attention. But they only do so against a black background which could represent love. If you focus on the whole sky, you might agree there is not as much hate as there appears to be.
This doesn't appy to just love and hate, it applies to all that exists, and especially evolving our relationships. It is what you focus on that becomes what you see.
Tips For Being In A Relationship With A Virgo
Virgo is governed by the Sun and the Moon. They are modest in love. They can occasionally not think too highly of themselves, and can often back-off when they try to pursue someone. They need a lot of encouragement and careful planning in order to actually go for what they want.
Virgos can be ideal lovers. They are considered the rarest of the zodiac signs that can give unconditional love. Once they find the perfect one for them, they will do everything to make that relationship last and their partners happy.
They are routine people and when the call for change arises, they can be pessimistic. They have the tendency to be impulsive with their decisions, making their relationship move at a fast rate all the time. They are reserved at first, but eventually they can be expressive and sensual.
They build their relationship in trust and perfection. They want things to always be in order and be improved, including their loved ones. They continually have this perception of a perfect relationship, so they tend to be the person their lovers want them to be.
Positive Traits Of Virgo Lover
Virgo lovers are the most helpful. They are reliable and the first to help their partner in need. They want their loved ones to be fulfilled and satisfied in life. Virgos are ambitions, both in love and in life. They use their intelligence to get what they want.
They are calm and always analytic in problem solving. They may be impulsive with their decisions, but you can be sure they are probably doing the right thing. When in a heated argument, they will simply stay away and come back when things are cooled off. However, be assured they have all the possible solutions laid out.
Negative Traits of Virgo Lover
Virgos can be melodramatic. They have the tendency to tier themselves without even moving. Over thinking is their downside. In turn, they can exaggerate things that they don't feel is right. Their sensitivity eats up all their emotions. They can show their temperament on a constant basis, making members of the opposite sex back off. They can bring both chaos and order, depending on their mood and way of thinking.
Virgos seemed to be detached and uncaring most of the time, but that is only on the exterior. The truth is, they are very observant and sensitive to everything. They easily get hurt, but won't show it. They want to be appreciated all the time. Virgos are also ambitious and will do everything to the extreme just to get what they want. This can lead to their success or to their destruction, depending on the ways they want to tackle the road of their dreams.
How To Attract A Virgo
You have to be highly intellectual to be able to attract a Virgo. They love lively conversations that have depth and meaning. They like to connect themselves with people who are fun to be with and are confident in themselves. Truthfulness is very important. They don't like fake people. Show the real you and your Virgo will naturally be drawn to you.
Virgo like to be in control and love their freedom. Let them explore, be who they want to be, and encourage them to do the things they want, and it won't take much time for them to be completely enamored with you. Virgos also love a good listener. This is what they want in any companion. Always take an interest in whatever they do and learn how to appreciate them. Someone who can stimulate their mind and are reliable 24/7 to all their worries is the first to win their heart.
Don'ts With A Virgo
Do not ever overpower a Virgo, they will never forgive you. They love their freedom and will only submit to the person they trust the most. If you want things done, you have to convince them in a nice way. Lead them to think that it was their idea, not yours. This would be a better road to controlling a Virgo.
Never attempt to betray a Virgo. They are intelligent and have a keen observation to everything. They are great detectives. They can spy on you for the rest of your life, just to prove to themselves that you are not doing anything wrong.
Virgos are naturally shy people. However, when they hold your heart, they will show the world how much they love you. When they are comfortable enough to show their love, don't ever neglect those emotions or their rare showcase of love. Remember, they can get hurt easily.
Lastly, never push them to the limits. You won't like them when they are mad. The will hold onto the things they find most important, and if you disrespect or cross that line, they will be your worst enemy.
What Virgo Needs From Their Relationship
Virgos need a relationship centered in their own definition of perfection and true love. They have this wild idea of romance, and will do everything to make those fairytales come true. They can love just one person for the rest of their lives and would not even dare to think of cheating.
They need someone who can understand the real them. A person who is willing to go for the things they want, the ideas they have in mind, and the dreams they have for the future. They need someone who knows how to appreciate their every work, whether it be little or big. This for them, is a big gesture of love.
They long for a relationship built on trust. They love to start all of their relationships with friendship and build them through time. They are very observant and want to be sure that the person they end up giving their heart to is the right one.
They don't like making mistakes, so expect to be scrutinized all the time, just to achieve their idea of a perfect relationship. In the nutshell, it is not hard to love a Virgo much less to be loved by them.
Love and light,
Jordan Canon
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