You ever pick up the phone and wince every time a certain person(s) reaches out because they are a kvetcher aka whiner, Debbie Downer etc? You really do care about them, but you know if you dared ask those three proverbial words, "How are you?" they would hold you captive for the next hour; leave you listless (with a things to do list that never got handled because you wasted your time listening to their kvetching rather than doing your work) and feeling like you needed a double shot of espresso just to get off your couch.
Or maybe you hit a rough patch in your life (we've all been there) and YOU were the irresponsible kvetcher. You started to notice people sprinting like cockroaches when you turn the light on, in your presence because you unwittingly have been engaged in a Kvetch-athon and never realized it.
Here's the deal. Under the need to kvetch (Yiddush word for the need to complain, whine and catastrophize) lies a deep human need to be heard, validated and know that someone empathizes. Basically that you're not alone.
But where do you draw the line? What are the nuances between the bonding that happens when people share their humanness and vulnerability? What is there line between feeling good that you listening to another person made a difference versus feeling resentful that you just got dumped on?
Need some support in this area, or just a little edu-tainment relief?
Watch Smart/Sexy TV newest episode, "How to Kvetch Responsibly," and laugh and learn how to set boundaries for those well-meaning but irresponsible kvetchers and also ask for what you need when you're in kvetch mode.
I welcome your comments, thoughts and if you need to kvetch, that's fine, just do it responsibly. Pass on to others you know would benefit.
Here's the link to Smart Sexy TV, hey thanks for tuning in...and not tuning out. 
