Hello !

Of course, it's always best to deal directly with the source to get resolution. But when you get upset and you can't find solace in the person or situation that you have it with then what do you do?  

Many people stuff their emotions or let them fester until they get sick or depressed. Some take it out on others. But there are healthy ways to release your upset even if you don't have a willing party to accommodate you.  

Hopefully some of these solutions will help. Feel free to share your own.

• First and foremost, I must remember that I am committed to returning to a loving place, even if I don't feel it now. This gives me permission to feel my feelings knowing they will be resolved.
• Feel your feelings as much as you need. We are entitled to our emotions and feelings so feel them fully. If you are sad, don't ignore the fact or you will be discounting yourself.
• Find a friend to talk to - as long as you share with the intent to feel better and not to make wrong, ask a friend to be a committed listener for you.
• Find a way to release - journal, meditate, pray, cry, or write a letter that you will never send to the other party. Punch a pillow or exercise. The idea is to get the negative energy moving through you. Again, don't pretend it doesn't exist; you want to honor it but move it out as gently as possible.
• Learn the art of forgiveness. - Forgiveness is more beneficial to you than it is to the other person. It relieves the stress that this upset causes in your body.
• Find appreciation for your situation - There are times when we are so upset that we can't see the benefits that are being presented. There is a chance that this upset is a prompt for change. Maybe it's to take you to the next level of a relationship or to begin the ending of it. It could be to expose your vulnerabilities and learn to either be with them or move beyond them. Typically, there is some benefit in every situation. Try to find it.
• When all else fails, eat ice cream.

Have a perfect day!

Fran