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Hello !
What are your thoughts about being alone? I have been through so many levels of it in my life and I'm curious to know about you. I started out where I was never alone as a child. Always around family and friends. Then when I married, I was afraid to be left alone all night since I had never really been alone. I got ribbed about being a coward because of this insecurity. I'd have to make arrangements to not be by myself if my husband was going fishing for the night.
Then when I moved out on my own again, I couldn't believe I was going to be truly alone. I had a great teacher who advised me that if I wanted to really learn about being alone then I would want to stay inside, no TV, no computer or phone and just be alone with myself. I resisted and I have to tell you, it was so confronting. I found myself pacing and swearing and saying things like "I can just walk out that door and not be alone anymore", except I was committed to being OK with aloneness. And it really worked. I finally fell in love with being alone and enjoyed my own company so much. However, my lifestyle was very busy and being alone was a commodity even though I lived alone.
So here I am 20 years later and slowing down a bit. I am fully embracing my alone time and enjoy it immensely and what happens? The people around me are saying I am spending too much time alone. Go figure.
When is it time to be social and when is being alone a problem? I know someone who can't be alone and therefore stays busy all the time. The thought of sitting home on a Sunday afternoon drives them crazy. They can't be with their own thoughts.
So what is your level of aloneness and how do you and those you love react to it. Do you need more or less? Do you find that you are defending yourself when you need to be alone?
What are your reasons for being by yourself? Is it for Fun, Quiet, Introspection? Regrouping? Or do you think of it as a punishment or a sentence? I think most of us need more alone time then we gift ourselves. What do you think?
Here's to going solo ,
Fran
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