Hi there Greetings!!

Do you ever find that certain people have a need to share every thought they have going on in their head? Usually it's an opposing opinion or a negative comment. Typically people like that aren't generous with compliments or encouragement.  Do you know someone like this? ARE you someone like this?

I wonder if the receivers even realize what's happening. They may just feel yucky after a conversation with this person but not realize that they have just been dumped on. I also wonder if the givers have a clue about the negativity and toxic waste they leave behind.

Just because it's true, or it's your opinion or you heard it somewhere, doesn't mean it has to leave your mouth. Believe me; I have trouble with this myself. I want to say what's on my mind much more than I do and yet I say much more than I should.  Then I want to kick myself afterward for bringing darkness to a conversation. I'll eventually learn, I'm sure.

My friend and I now have a favorite saying we use to bring comedy into this type of scenario. One night while I was sharing something with him that he was clearly disapproving of, he said 'my mouth is bleeding'. And when I asked why, he said it was because he was biting his tongue so hard trying not to say what was on his mind.  I am so grateful to him for this new tool. We say it to each other often and joke about it. But truth be told, I would rather both of us have bloody mouths than to vomit all over each other with our opinions that we know won't land well anyway.

Do what you feel would resolve this if you've noticed the impact it's having on you or someone else. Don't live with it and pretend it doesn't bother you because it will fester. None of us can afford the repercussions of festering.  

Mums the negative word Greetings!.

Enthusiastically,

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