Hello !  

I learned many years ago how crucial it is to 'wait to be asked' when helping others. Just because people complain or talk about their lives not working , doesn't mean they want to be 'fixed'.

It's a hard thing to allow someone to have their pain or discomfort. Especially when it's someone you love. It may be times like this where we can step back and love someone from afar. Pray for them and tell them that you are there if they need or want your help. You can even specifically request that they ask you for help when they are ready.  

This works both ways . We often go through growth spurts where we are being challenged from all directions and it hurts others to watch us struggle. We may need to express our desire to feel our own pain and learn to trust our own ability to come through any circumstance. 

Waiting to be asked is a great universal law that respects others as well as yourself. It keeps us from banging our head against the wall, not knowing what we should do next to help someone out. If we set the foundation to ask when any of us need support, guidance or opinions, we will all be much happier.  

Ask me ,  

Fran

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