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Perspectives Counseling Centers Newsletter

August 2014

Groups & Workshops

 

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 CHILDREN 

 

the next group begins on 9/17/14!
Hands on learning as they practice valuable social skills needed to function in society. 

TBD Fall 2014!
Learn valuable skills to cope with and conquer their fears and anxieties.  

For boys 8-12 who struggle with anger, impulsiveness and hyperactivity. 

   

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TEENS 

 

Teen EDGE

the next group begins on 9/9/14!

For teens who struggle with depression, anxiety and self-destructive behaviors.

 

Cutting EDGE

Helping teens overcome the urge to engage in self-injurious behavior.

 

Social Skills EDGE

Hands on learning as they practice valuable social skills needed to function in society.

 

Self-Esteem EDGE

November 8, 2014!

Focusing on increasing all aspects of self-esteem for girls presented in a fun "girl empowerment" workshop.

 

 Self-Control/Anger EDGE 

Co-ed anger management program for teens to learn about anger styles, ways to decrease anger outbursts and manage  emotions effectively.

 

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ADULTS

 

 The Self-Control Parenting Seminar

@ Perspectives Talks on September 15!!!

Parenting the impulsive, angry & hyperactive child. Learn skills to help yourself and your children.

 

Parenting the Self-Destructive Teen

Learn the truth about self-destructive behavior; learn how to help your teen.

 

 

The HEART of Family

Learn how to work through conflict in the family. Find solutions for complicated family dynamics!  Discover the H.E.A.R.T of your Family!

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Perspectives Talks is ready to roll on September 15. See below for more information and schedule.

Now that Fall is here, Perspectives is putting the final touches on our Newsletters and Open House presentation.  Stay tuned for more information! 

Eric Nordquist, MA, LPC, NCC is back this month with part 2 of his article on Forgiveness.  If you missed part 1 in April 2014, read it on our Archives!

We are committed to serving you and the surrounding community.  Thank you for your continued referrals.

Please feel free to call us with questions or visit our website at  www.perspectivesoftroy.com.


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248-244-8644

586-268-6712

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 Perspectives Talks 


Perspectives Talks is a monthly mental health seminar geared toward educating the community about topics that are important to you.  One of our qualified therapists will provide you with their knowledge and  offer their insights on a specific topic and answer your questions directly. The fee is $30 per person or $50 per couple.   Attendees do not need to be a current client at Perspectives.  


 
Call 248-244-8644
to reserve your seat! 

 

Parenting Self-Control:  Helping Parents with Hyperactive, Impulsive and Angry Children

 

with Joe Lilly, LMSW

 

Monday, September 15, 2014

7:30-9:00 pm

 

Sign-up required by: 9/8/14

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Drugs & Other Scary Things

 

with Andrew Jones, MS, LPC

 

Monday, October 20th, 2014

7:30-9:00 pm

 

Sign up required by: 10/13/14

 

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Call 248-244-8644 to reserve your seat!

Forgiveness II

by Eric Nordquist, MA, LPC, NCC


 
This is Part II of the article written 

on the topic of Forgiveness

 from April 2014

 

We all get hurt and offended by others in the course of living life - it can be small (a careless comment) or very large (being taken advantage of by family, betrayal by a friend, etc.).  An important skill in any longer term relationship is the ability to move past an offense.  In essence, the process of moving past a wrong done toward us involves some type of letting go or forgiveness. 


 
To forgive means to let the offender "off the hook" for a wrong that occurred.  Although we may feel the offender does not "deserve it", we actually forgive for ourselves, the one who was hurt or offended.  Sometimes in our anger and hurt, not forgiving seems like the only thing which can right the wrong.  In a strange way, this will keep us chained to the wrongdoer until we let them free.  Forgiveness is a process that unties us from the past.


 
The question of HOW can we forgive sometimes becomes a complicated one, especially when it runs deep or has been there for a long period of time.  Here are some suggestions that may be helpful:


 
Realize we're not perfect either.  We have all said or done things which were mean, thoughtless or impulsive.  Keeping the focus on my own wrongs can keep someone else's in better perspective.


 
Develop some compassion for the offender.  If you understand the other person's background, perspective, or emotional condition at the time, his or her behavior may make more sense. 

 

Talk to an understanding person, but check your motives.  Gossip or tarnishing someone else's reputation won't help you to forgive.  It might be best to talk with someone who does not know the offender. 


 
Journal or write about the offense and pronounce forgiveness at the end.  Sometimes declaring the process as done and over in a ritual can help.  After finishing the writing, tear the paper up, bury the journal entry in the ground, or perform some similar ritual can sometimes make it seem more final or complete.

 

Make a DECISION to let the offense go.  Don't dwell or rehearse an offense.  Sometimes forgiveness is a daily decision we make to no longer think about the problem. Let go of the need to "get even."  Mentally imagine posting a "No Fishing" sign over the offense once you have finished the process.

 

Consider talking with the person who offended you.  It may seem hard to believe, but they may not even know they offended you.  Weigh the consequences carefully and see if this action makes sense; if it is likely to cause harm or further damage, this option may not be not advisable. 

 

Remember, forgiveness is often a process and can take months or even years especially in the case of a very serious offense.  Give yourself time to come to terms with the offense and remember progress is often gradual. 

 

If you cannot make progress or it seems to be worsening after the passage of time, a trusted professional can be a valuable resource. Call Perspectives at 248-244-8644
if we can be of help to you.

  Perspectives Counseling Centers

248-244-8644

Thank you for your continued trust and confidence!
Sincerely,

 

 Perspectives Counseling Centers