Communication can be challenging under the best of circumstances, however when conflicts arise it becomes even more of a challenge. Here are some steps to improve your communication today:

1. Parents - Focus on what is best for your kids.
2. Pay Attention to Nonverbal Signals. Avoid crossing your arms, don't point and stay engaged in the conversation.
3. Concentrate on your tone of voice when speaking.
4. Use I statements - start sentences with "I" rather than "You".
5. Use good eye contact.
6. Use Reflective Listening. Put your own thoughts and responses aside while you listen to the speaker. Repeat back your interpretation of what has been said and ask for clarification.
7. Realize that no one "wins" an argument. If you don't leave a discussion with a possible solution to the problem or a step closer to the solution, then neither party has been successful.
8. Try to be positive when bringing up sensitive problems. It helps to start by talking about positive things and then moving into the deeper discussion on problem areas.
9. Take a time out if the discussion gets too intense. If an argument gets heated and irrational, it is better to postpone the discussion to a time and place where effective communication can happen.
10. Be respectful to your partner in all discussions. Listen to your partner's ideas, thoughts and concerns. You don't have to agree with all of them, but if you respect your partner's right to have them then you may be able to come up with a healthier resolution of the issue. Once you let your partner know what you have heard, then respond with your thoughts in a respectful manner.