"Jane & Jane" are like rock stars to CASA programs and advocates nationwide. A social worker and lawyer, their presentation emphasizes the critical importance of permanency. They don't enter the stage with a drum-roll, or rely on epic videos, or dazzling PowerPoint's. They simply set-up a flip chart and blow you away with their in-depth knowledge, research, and compelling real-life stories of mothers who have adopted abused or neglected children --mothers like them.

Jane Thompson lists the levels of parenting

Nearly 100 CASA Lake County volunteers gathered at Aon Hewitt for an annual all-day in-service. The Janes reported on the devastating impact that the child welfare system has on the physical, emotional and educational development of a child. "No system is a good parent," said Malpass. Adding that "We have already lost 'the best interest of a child' when we take them away from their natural parents." Thompson added what both Janes had discovered from their own blended families:  "Regardless of how loving and secure your home is, an adopted child grieves over the loss of their parents, feels abandoned and disconnected. 'Why was I abandoned by my natural mother? Why did my first foster parents not adopt me?  Why am I unlovable?'"

The Janes tirelessly advocate for permanence as quickly as possible, because the child is damaged the minute they are taken away from their family. Multiple placements translates into a breakdown of development and trust. In addition to needing care for their basic needs, and stimulation to learn and grow, they need continuity -- assurance that they will receive care and stimulation from the same  people and reciprocity. A reciprocal relationship is with a significant person through which a child comes to view themself as valuable.  "Children can't love without attachment. They care about attachment because they care about what their parents think -- and they want to be loved," said the Janes.

An intensely emotional and thought-provoking day, the Janes left us reflecting on our own cases, our nuclear families and childhood. Parting thoughts? How can we all be better parents? "Tell the truth, be on time, keep your promises and be dependable," they said.  Being a parent is very similar to being CASA advocate. It is about truth, credibility and keeping promises.

After an overview from Terri, a CASA staff member from each division gave a 5 minute summary of their role. When Debra Lerner Schmidt reviewed the extensive training schedule, the Congressman commented on how difficult it must be to find  volunteers with that kind of time and dedication.  He jokingly quipped that a college fair would be perfect --don't target the kids,  grab the parents, who will soon to be empty nesters. Noga told the compelling story of her case -- not only about a drug addicted mother with multiple children,  but of the happy ending about the oldest child. For four years Noga tenaciously guided and coached this child in her home and school. The outcome was that she is the first of her family to graduate from high school, and is in the process of transferring to North Illinois University to pursue a degree in nursing. "Do mothers get CASA Advocates? " asked Schneider.  Sometimes, but it is uncommon, we answered, explaining that we advocate for the best interest of the child. Claudia reviewed transportation challenges that face parents trying to get to the courthouse from Waukegan or outline communities. There are currently no buses on Milwaukee Avenue.  The Congressman admitted he was sympathetic to retailers and shoppers, but had never thought of parents who needed to attend court dates. "How can I help you?"  were his parting words. We gave him a list...It was an informal, informative, inspiring afternoon.

Talented Lake Forest Painter Nancy Smith and her husband Architect Adrian Smith join Joanie Bayhack, Director of Development and Communications at Elawa Farms

It was a daisy chain of good fortune. CASA Angel Ann McAveeney invited us to her Christmas Tea in Lake Forest, we met Nancy Smith, an artist and philanthropist, and Nancy suggested we meet the Lake Forest International Club (LFIC). And a beautiful friendship was born.  This non-profit organization was founded in 1961 by a group of women who lived outside the United States, and later returned to live in Lake Forest or Lake Bluff.  They designed this club to be a social, intellectual, cultural, philanthropic, educational and bipartisan haven for diverse members.

The fabulous farmhouse fundraiser sold out immediately

On Saturday, April 6 nearly 70 guests listened to live country music in a moonlit Lake Forest farmhouse with tables adorned with tulips, daffodils and Spring baskets.  Three charities were invited to speak -- It Can Be Done!, Supplies for Dreams and CASA. Auctioneers encouraged contributions to each one -- and the more you gave, the more raffle tickets you earned. The more raffle tickets you earned, the more chances you had of winning fabulous prizes from a romantic dinner at Froggy's restaurant to a tree from Chalet. Generosity and compassion filled the room. "It is the circle of giving," said LFIC President Cathy Alam.

Spring time tables-scapes adored the room

It was a perfect Saturday night. Thank you to Nancy Smith for the nomination to be part of the three of charities, to Angela Lee and Cathy Alam and all the LFIC members for their warmth, hospitality and support.

COCKTAILS (AND SUSHI) FOR CASA WAS A HIT

Liz Pimper (from left) Kristen Wilson, Julie Finley, Mike Nemmers, Kathleen Anderson, Mike Genelin and Erika Palmer