In This Issue
Martin Luther King Jr.
Benefits of Forgiveness

"Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude."   Martin Luther King Jr.


A Journey begins with a Single Step




Hope this day is all that you have hoped it to be. Whether OR NOT the sun is shining, whether OR NOT you have shoveled yourself out of the snow and ice;  today is a day filled with your hopes and dreams. Ever wonder where the time has gone when you think of the plans that you were suppose to make? Looking further; if you had to do it all over - WOULD you HAVE done things differently. Well, today is THE day to do things differently. It's a matter of the choices that you make. We can't change yesterday, are not guaranteed tomorrow but we do have today.We have the choice to grow in love and to grow in maturity - but one choice is very clear to make and that is in forgiveness. Jesus tells us in Matt.6 that we are to forgive as we have been forgiven right there in the Lord's prayer. If we are holding onto unforgiveness it shows up as bitterness, anger, and even revengeful. We can't hide these thoughts or the conditions of our hearts from God. He knows we have a tough time with this and so He gives  us His mercy and grace. Are you ready to begin your journey of healing, wholeness and reconciliation?

This month let's talk about forgiveness and its benefits.... 





"People are often unreasonable and self-centered.

Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway. 
If you are honest, people may cheat you. 

Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous. 

Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. 

Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway. 
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway." Mother Teresa


These are words from a godly woman who knew what it took to live a life worth living. Her life preached these words. What do our lives preach? Each day we make a choice with our decisions whether we will take a step forward (anticipating what it takes for real change), choosing to stay where we are (stuck) or by going backwards (looking back) to live a life worth living. Can we really go forward if we choose not to forgive? The first thing Mother Theresa mentions is forgiveness.  Before we can be kind to one another, honest with one another, share happiness or even do any type of good to one another - we need a forgiving heart. Forgiveness is not a feeling it is a choice (Matt.6:-15) because if we don't, there is an open door in our spiritual lives through which Satan will enter and wreak havoc (John 10:10).


Is today the day to move forward? Call H2HCC at 908.864.0573 to make an appointment to move forward and begin to live in the freedom that forgiveness begins to bring.



Benefits of Forgiveness



What are the benefits of forgiving someone?

Letting go of grudges and bitterness can make way for compassion, kindness and peace. Forgiveness can lead to:

  • Healthier relationships
  • Greater spiritual and psychological well-being
  • Less anxiety, stress and hostility
  • Lower blood pressure
  • Fewer symptoms of depression
  • Lower risk of alcohol and substance abuse



mlk prayingImpossible to Forgive You Say? 




Change just does not happen by chance. There is a process that needs to happen before we can see change in our personal as well as professional relationships. We have been reminded that forgiveness is the first step on a journey to reconciliation. For inspiration we only have to look at the life of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

Because of him our lives have been blessed as well as enriched. His deep faith taught him that forgiveness was an attitude that he needed to carry with him each and every day. How do you think history would have been written if he did not seek reconciliation through forgiveness? Do you think that you cannot forgive? Dr. King spoke the following words on forgiveness when asked how do you love your enemies?


"First, we must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. It is impossible even to begin the act of loving one's enemies without the prior acceptance of the necessity, over and over again, of forgiving those who inflict evil and injury upon us. It is also necessary to realize that the forgiving act must always be initiated by the person who has been wronged, the victim of some great hurt, the recipient of some tortuous injustice, the absorber of some terrible act of oppression. The wrongdoer may request forgiveness. He may come to himself, and, like the prodigal son, move up some dusty road, his heart palpitating with the desire for forgiveness. But only the injured neighbor, the loving father back home, can really pour out the warm waters of forgiveness." Martin Luther King Jr. 


Notice that the first thing he mentioned in loving your enemies is forgiveness? This is the first step on the path that in order to leave behind the hurt of today. If this is something you would like to do, call or email us at 908.864.0573 or email to set up an appointment to set your foot on the right path to freedom. 


The first 5 people who call for a complimentary introduction session will receive a new NIV Bible as a gift. 
Rev. Deborah Skomba 
Deborah Skomba
Heart To Heart Counseling Center 
1130 Rt. 202S E-5 Raritan NJ 08869      
Let today be the day to begin your journey to find your joy.