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 Issue 119
24 October  2013

 

  

 

"What do I have to do, be or have in order to keep growing?"

 

I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear

  - Nelson Mandela

 

Jaki Wasike-Sihanya, 

Certifield Life Coach (CLC); Board Certified Coach (BCC)

 

 

In This Issue
What's holding you back?
Step Beyond Your Barriers Program
About the Coach
Facing fear
   What's your kind of fear?
    

 

 

 

The fourth question that could change your life is: "what's holding you back?"

In my experience the most common response to this question is "resources", or, to be more specific, "money".

The irony is, you need to do something to create or attract the resources in the first place.

Other responses include 'not knowing how or where to start' which includes the lack of skills, and 'not being ready' which could include the two reasons above.

In all instances, I find, fear is at the root of our seeming inability to move forward with creating the life we truly desire.

It may be fear of success, or of failure. It is the fear of changing, and the fear of staying the same. It is the fear of the unknown, in juxtaposition, ironically, with the fear of knowing our truths. It is the fear that we are not good enough.

What is your kind of fear?

Understanding that fear is part of life is the first step to stopping it from paralysing you. Fear can spur you to action, and not only in extreme situations, if you choose to harness its energy for positive action. Many people will tell you they still feel a tingle of fear before they embark on something they have done severally, like stepping up onto the stage to perform, or talk. This kind of fear serves to remind us that we are a continuing work of art, and that we are human.

5 things that you can do about your fear:

1. Let it be your companion, but do not cede control. Imagine you are driving, and there is a car in the lane next to you. The driver of this car appears erratic, and sometimes gets too close to you, but she is not driving your car. You are in control of your car, no matter what she does. So you focus on your driving, staying in your lane, while keeping a 'third'  eye out for sudden moves from the other driver. Eventually she, or you, will take a turn, or stop, and you will not have to worry about her anymore. If you don't stay focused on your driving you will begin to make mistakes and could cause an accident.

Fear accompanies us on parts of our journey, but it need not be in control.

2. Ask yourself what if? What if the fearful outcome isn't true? What is possible? Asking this question gets you into thinking about possibilities, and doing so opens you up to new perspectives, new solutions, and, possibly, the realisation that you can do it. Another way to look at this is to ask "what's the worst that can happen?" Often, we can survive the worst that we imagine, and many times what we fear never comes to pass.

3. Burn the boats. This seemingly extreme position leaves you no option but to succeed. One of the reasons we fear to do things differently is because we have the option not to do so. And as long as we have that option, we can make excuses.

4. Start doing something anyway. Some people call this 'feel the fear and do it anyway'. Don't wait for the fear to go before you start doing something about the life you want. This could be just what you need to show you that you can do it! And the more you succeed, the less the fear holds you back.

5. Take care of yourself, from the inside out. Eat right, sleep right. Be at peace with your neighbour. This builds your immunity against fear, and gives you the confidence to step out and go for the life you really want.

When all is said and done, ask yourself this: "is my fear less dreadful than the future I face if I don't do things differently?"

When your answer is "no" you will do something about it.

 

To know more about how coaching contact me here.

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Register here for
Step Beyond Your Barriers Workshop
Next Date: 07 December 2013
 

  

This is a program for men and women who are generally successful, but who are not fulfilled. It is for people who wake up in the morning and wonder if there is more to life than 'this'. It is for people who want to find more meaning in their lives. Step Beyond Your Barriers

 

These men and women know they are stuck, yet they feel powerless to make the change they need. They need help to take the first step to living the life they really want.

 

'Step Beyond Your Barriers' will show you how to 

  • Identify where you are in your life now 
  • Articulate where you want to be 
  • Acknowledge barriers that hold you back 
  • Plan to overcome those barriers 

At the end of this program you will have developed your vision of success with fulfillment, and you will have the confidence to pursue that vision.

 

 

The program is delivered in 3 ways.  Read more

 

Step Beyond Your Barriers Workshop Program Schedule

  

 

September
Sat 7th2013
DecemberSat 7th 2013
March
Sat 8th2014
June
Sat 7th2014

 

Register or enquire for more details here 

 

  

 

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About the Coach 
 
Jaki Life coach   
I partner with individuals to design the lives  they want through individual coaching, group coaching and motivational speaking.

After  surviving a life threatening condition, I began to reflect on the meaning of life, and sought to live more purposefully. This experience has helped shape my approach to coaching, where i bring my passion for helping people  pursue their vision for the life they really want.

I also works with  Sihanya Mentoring, a program whose main aim is to provide inspiration, career guidance, counseling and role modeling to pupils, students and other mentees in the country through a community of mentors. The vision is to help disadvantaged students develop the necessary skills, knowledge, attitudes and values (SKAVs) to excel.
 

I am an internationally  certified Life Coach as well as a member of theChartered Institute of Marketing (CIM). 

Contact me here

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