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  • Articulate where you want to be 
  • Acknowledge barriers that hold you back 
  • Plan to overcome those barriers 
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 Issue 112
15 August  2013

 

  

 

"What do I have to do, be or have in order to keep growing?"

 

One of the most common burdens that people carry around is 'unforgiveness'. 

 

This is a state where you hold onto a hurt that was caused by someone even decades after the incident. Sometimes you use it as an excuse to behave badly, or as a reason not to step forward. Consciously or otherwise you blame the person who hurt you for everything that's 'wrong' with you. In short, you allow that person to continue wielding power over you.

 

What could you do with the energy that taking back your power would release?

 

 Regards

 

Jaki Wasike-Sihanya, 

 

 

In This Issue
Set down the Unforgiveness
Step Beyond Your Barriers Program
About the Coach
Set down the 'unforgiveness'
  

 

Forgiveness has nothing to do with absolving a criminal of his crime. It has everything to do with relieving oneself of the burden of being a victim--letting go of the pain and transforming oneself from victim to survivor -  C.R. Strahan

  

 

Forgiving Living with 'unforgiveness' is like walking around with a heavy suitcase strapped to your chest.  This suitcase is packed with rage, malice, depression, bitterness, anger, self-loath - negative emotions that drain an incredible amount of energy even when you don't think so! This suitcase carry's stuff that can destroy everything - unforgiveness destroys families, communities, marriages, relationships, our relationship with God, and our personal happiness - as well as making us vulnerable to disease.

 

Did you have forgiveness on your list of 'incomplete tasks from last week's exercise? Is unforgiveness one of the burdens you are carrying around? Are you struggling to forgive?

 

One of the reasons we struggle to forgive is because we think it is not deserved, and that to forgive suggests accepting or tolerating the offence that was committed against you.

 

But forgiveness is not necessarily deserved, and it doesn't mean  that a transgression is tolerable. Forgiving someone is not for the benefit of that person; it is for the sake of YOU. You are the one that will suffer from unforgiveness and it is you that will benefit from the act of forgiveness. When you forgive, you release; and when you release, you progress.

 

But how do you forgive?

 

There are many ways, and no doubt what works for one person may not work for the other. Here are a few things to consider:

  1. Acknowledge that you are holding onto the hurt, then tell yourself you want to let go. You may do this in your head, or in writing, or by telling someone else.
  2. Let it out - write a letter to the person who hurt you. Say everything you want to say to them. Then burn it.
  3.  Leave the responsibility of repentance to the person who hurt you. You are only in control of your own decision to forgive, or not to. Don't do it for them. Do it for you.
  4. If your 'unforgiveness' stems from something your parents or older people  did when you were under their care, or when you were a minor, remember you are no longer one, and today you decide the course you want your life to take. Is carrying around the baggage of their misdeeds what you want to do for the rest of your life?
  5. Know that your past cannot change, but your future can. What will you choose?

Finally, reflect on these words quoted from  Wm Paul Young:

 

"Forgiveness is not about forgetting. It is about letting go of another person's throat......Forgiveness does not create a relationship. Unless people speak the truth about what they have done and change their mind and behaviour, a relationship of trust is not possible. When you forgive someone you certainly release them from judgment, but without true change, no real relationship can be established.........Forgiveness in no way requires that you trust the one you forgive. Forgiveness does not excuse anything.........You may have to declare your forgiveness a hundred times the first day and the second day, but the third day will be less and each day after, and then one day you will realize that you have forgiven completely."

 

 

 

 

Register here for
Step Beyond Your Barriers Workshop
Next Date: 07 September 2013
 

  

This is a program for men and women who are generally successful, but who are not fulfilled. It is for people who wake up in the morning and wonder if there is more to life than 'this'. It is for people who want to find more meaning in their lives. Step Beyond Your Barriers

 

These men and women know they are stuck, yet they feel powerless to make the change they need. They need help to take the first step to living the life they really want.

 

'Step Beyond Your Barriers' will show you how to 

  • Identify where you are in your life now 
  • Articulate where you want to be 
  • Acknowledge barriers that hold you back 
  • Plan to overcome those barriers 

At the end of this program you will have developed your vision of success with fulfillment, and you will have the confidence to pursue that vision.

 

 

The program is delivered in 3 ways.  Read more

 

Step Beyond Your Barriers Workshop Program Schedule

  

 

September
Sat 7th2013
DecemberSat 7th 2013
March
Sat 8th2014
June
Sat 7th2014

 

Register or enquire for more details here 

 

  

 

About the Coach 
 
Jaki Life coach   
I partner with individuals to design the lives  they want through individual coaching, group coaching and motivational speaking.

After  surviving a life threatening condition, I began to reflect on the meaning of life, and sought to live more purposefully. This experience has helped shape my approach to coaching, where i bring my passion for helping people  pursue their vision for the life they really want.

I also works with  Sihanya Mentoring, a program whose main aim is to provide inspiration, career guidance, counseling and role modeling to pupils, students and other mentees in the country through a community of mentors. The vision is to help disadvantaged students develop the necessary skills, knowledge, attitudes and values (SKAVs) to excel.
 

I am an internationally  certified Life Coach as well as a member of theChartered Institute of Marketing (CIM). 

Contact me here

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