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 Issue 104
02 May 2013

Greetings! 

There are people who just don't try. They don't try to follow the map. They don't try to speak to someone. They don't try to find out more. They don't try what works for others. They don't try what they secretly want to do. Without thrying they have concluded that "it won't work".

And then they go around wondering why everyone one else seems to know what to do, why others are getting ahead.

 

Thing is, you cannot move along if you won't take the first step.

 

Regards

 

Jaki Wasike-Sihanya,   

Idea to Action Coach

 

In This Issue
Try, To Get Unstuck
Step Beyond Your Barriers Program
About the Coach
Try, To Get Unstuck
 

Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly - Robert F. Kennedy

 

Trying The "fight or flight response" is our body's automatic, inborn reaction that prepares us to "fight" or "flee" from perceived attack, harm or threat to our survival. It is entirely appropriate that we should seek to preserve ourselves in the face of perils, but we risk action paralysis if we are constantly in this state.

When faced with a risky task we may find ourselves having an inner conversation, where we assess the trade-off we need to make between fleeing for safety, and staying, because we don't see how we can live with ourselves if we don' stay the course. The outcome of this conversation makes the difference between those who go further to achieve greatness, and those who don't.

Consider this newspaper headline: 'Nine Year Old Fights Crocodile to Save Brother". An adult crocodile can be as long as 5m or more, and weigh more than 300kg. The bite force of a crocodile is more than 5,000 pounds per square inch. What would drive a boy whose weight is less than one sixth of a crocodile's, to fight one off? The answer is: "the prospect of living without his brother".

It is probably inconceivable that the nine year old had the time to have a conversation about whether living without his brother was a more fearful prospect than to risking his life fighting a crocodile, but, in the case I refer to, that is exactly what happened. When interviewed, the boy said he could not imagine living without his brother, and so he "had to do something to help him". They both suffered serious injuries, but they survived.

Now I am going to turn that question around and ask, "what would have happened if the boy hadn't fought the crocodile, and so lost his brother?"

The boy would probably have spent the rest of his life wondering what would have happened if he had tried.

And that's the essence of my message today.

When the fight or flight response is activated, your awareness intensifies, and you see nearly everything in your environment as a possible threat to your survival. You are likely to over-react to the slightest comment. Your fear is exaggerated. Your thinking is distorted. You see everything through the filter of possible danger. You narrow your focus to risks and potential danger. In this state it is almost impossible to cultivate positive attitudes and beliefs. With your focus on short-term survival, you fail to consider the long-term consequences of your beliefs and choices.

In this state, you give up before you begin. You stop living because you are merely surviving. When you're perpetually on high alert, you feel stuck, because you stop trying for better.

To get unstuck to need to go beyond the 'state of alert' and choose to try.

 

 

Register here for
Step Beyond Your Barriers Workshop
Next Date: 08 June 2013
 

 

 

 

Fit in Stand outThis is a program for men and women who are generally successful, but who are not fulfilled. It is for people who wake up in the morning and wonder if there is more to life than 'this'. It is for people who want to find more meaning in their lives.

 

These men and women know they are stuck, yet they feel powerless to make the change they need. They need help to take the first step to living the life they really want.

 

'Step Beyond Your Barriers' will show you how to 

  • Identify where you are in your life now 
  • Articulate where you want to be 
  • Acknowledge barriers that hold you back 
  • Plan to overcome those barriers 

At the end of this program you will have developed your vision of success with fulfilment, and you will have the confidence to pursue that vision.

 

The program is delivered in 3 ways.  Read more

 

Step Beyond Your Barriers Program Schedule

 

 

June8th
  
September7th
  
December7th

 

 

 

  To register send  email here.

 

 

 

 

  
   
  
About the Coach 
 
Jaki Life coach   
Jaki partners with individuals to design the lives  they want through individual coaching, group coaching and motivational speaking.

After  surviving a life threatening condition, Jaki began to reflect on the meaning of life, and sought to live more purposefully. This experience has helped shape her approach to coaching, where she brings her passion for helping people  pursue their vision for the life they really want.

Jaki also works with  Sihanya Mentoring, a program whose main aim is to provide inspiration, career guidance, counseling and role modeling to pupils, students and other mentees in the country through a community of mentors. The vision is to help disadvanteged students develop the necessary skills, knowledge, attitudes and values (SKAVs) to excel.
 

Jaki is an internationally  certified Life Coach as well as a member of the hartered Institute of Marketing (CIM). 

Contact Jaki here

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