People whose lives are going the way they want them to ask more for help. I make a distinction between asking for more help and asking more for help.
Asking for more help happens when you keep going back, possibly to the same resource, wanting more, because you do not get the right kind of assistance in the first place. And you don't get the right kind of help in the first place for any or all of the following reasons:
- You do not have enough awareness of what you need
- You do not share enough to get the right kind of help
- You do not put in the right effort to benefit from the help
- You do not expect solutions from within, so relying wholly on the resource (burdening them).
On the other hand, asking more for help is about diversity of resources based on good self-awareness. You know where you need support, and you ask clearly for that help. You make meaningful use of any backing you get, deploying it to propel yourself forward so that the next request for help stems from a new need, borne of progress, greater understanding of where you are, a new, higher level target etc. And because you made good use of what you last received you are not embarrassed to ask again.
Then those who support you see that their assistance motivates you and bears fruit, so they are more willing to continue assisting, and will even recommend you to others. This way your network expands. In other words, you have more to choose from when you need a service, and chances of getting the specific benefit you need for specific circumstances increases.
Another element of asking more for help revolves around the appreciation for what you receive. Other than the good that you make of whatever support you receive, you also appreciate and acknowledge the sources of that sustenance. Your life cannot go right without gratitude. Gratitude is the like a key to a door. Even when the door is locked you can open it up. Without that key you can never get in or out. Many people whose lives are not going right are stuck, inside or outside, they cannot cross the threshold either way. And failure to show gratitude is one sure way to slam doors shut.
Subsequently, a life that brings you the right levels of meaning, connectedness and balance is borne of asking clearly for what you need. This in turn comes from self-awareness, transparency, effort and a sense of responsibility for the outcomes you expect. And when all that is done, people whose lives are going right show gratitude more.
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