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 Issue 99
28 February 2013
Greetings!

Everybody who comes to coaching wants a better life.
Yet not everyone who comes to coaching wants to put in the 'more' that  people who live the lives they really want put in.
Todays reflection is centered on the difference between these attitudes.
In This Issue
Ask more for Help
Step Beyond Your Barriers Program
About the Coach
Ask more for Help
 

 

People whose lives are going the way they want them to ask more for help. I make a distinction between asking for more help and asking more for help.

 

Asking for more help happens when you keep going back, possibly  to the same resource, wanting more, because you do not get the right kind of assistance in the first place. And you don't get the right kind of help in the first place for any or all of the following reasons:

 

  1. You do not have enough awareness of what you need
  2. You do not share enough to get the right kind of help
  3. You do not put in the right effort to benefit from the help
  4. You do not expect solutions from within, so relying wholly on the resource (burdening them).

On the other hand, asking more for help is about diversity of resources based on good self-awareness. You know where you need support, and you ask clearly for that help. You make meaningful use of any backing you get, deploying it to propel yourself forward so that the next request for help stems from a new need, borne of progress, greater understanding of where you are, a new, higher level target etc. And  because you made good use of what you last received you are not embarrassed to ask again.

 

Bulls eye Then those who support you see that their assistance motivates you and bears fruit, so they are more willing to continue assisting, and will even recommend you to others. This way your network expands. In other words, you have more to choose from when you need a service, and chances of getting the specific benefit you need for specific circumstances increases.

 

Another element of asking more for help revolves around the appreciation for what you receive. Other than the good that you make of whatever support you receive, you also appreciate and acknowledge the sources of that sustenance. Your life cannot go right without gratitude. Gratitude is the like a key to a door. Even when the door is locked you can open it up. Without that key you can never get in or out. Many people whose lives are not going right are stuck, inside or outside, they cannot cross the threshold either way. And failure to show gratitude is one sure way to slam doors shut.

 

Subsequently, a life that brings you the right levels of meaning, connectedness and balance is borne of asking clearly for what you need. This in turn comes from self-awareness, transparency, effort and a sense of responsibility for the outcomes you expect. And when all that is done, people whose lives are going right  show gratitude more.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Register here for Step Beyond Your Barriers Workshop.
Date: March 2
Time: 2.30 - 4.30 pm
Venue: Lutheran Church Hall
Fees: 2000/-
 

This is a program for men and women who are generally successful, but who are not fulfilled. It is for people who wake up in the morning and wonder if there is more to life than 'this'. It is for people who want to find more meaning in their lives.

 

These men and women know they are stuck, yet they feel powerless to make the change they need. They need help to take the first step to living the life they really want.

 

'Step Beyond Your Barriers' will show you how to 

  • Identify where you are in your life now 
  • Articulate where you want to be 
  • Acknowledge barriers that hold you back 
  • Plan to overcome those barriers 

At the end of this program you will have developed your vision of success with fulfilment, and you will have the confidence to pursue that vision.

 

The program is delivered in 3 ways.  Read more

 

STEP BEYOND YOUR BARRIERS
Workshop Module Dates
March2nd
June8th
Sept7th
Dec7th

 

 

 

  To register send  email here.

 

 

 

 

  
Sincerely,
 
Jaki Wasike-Sihanya
Idea to Action Coach
     

  
About the Coach 
 
Jaki Life coach   
Jaki partners with individuals to design the lives  they want through individual coaching, group coaching and motivational speaking.

After  surviving a life threatening condition, Jaki began to reflect on the meaning of life, and sought to live more purposefully. This experience has helped shape her approach to coaching, where she brings her passion for helping people  pursue their vision for the life they really want.

Jaki also works with  Sihanya Mentoring, a program whose main aim is to provide inspiration, career guidance, counseling and role modeling to pupils, students and other mentees in the country through a community of mentors. The vision is to help disadvanteged students develop the necessary skills, knowledge, attitudes and values (SKAVs) to excel.
 

Jaki is an internationally  certified Life Coach as well as a member of the hartered Institute of Marketing (CIM). 

Contact Jaki here

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