LESSONS LEARNED

So I was a nurse in my late thirties,  surrounded by several nurses much older than I. I used to crack up when ever they had to hold what they were trying to read at a distance. I smirked at the glasses they were always losing and trying to find only to realize that they were on their heads. I had perfect vision and that was never going to be me. Fast forward to about the age of 50. and I was now one of them. Forget it, if I went out to eat and left my "cheaters" at home, my husband would have to hold the menu 6 miles out, or read it to me. It was humbling. And I felt bad about laughing at them. I was now one of them. Lesson learned.

The same smirky youthful me used to laugh at the older nurses who were constantly fanning themselves with the old med kardexes. It was freezing cold in the nurses station and these kooks were holding hand held mini fans. What was up with these people? Couldn't they control their chemicals? Fast forward to age 50. Why is my face turning RED and all this sweat dripping off my face, makeup sloughing off like hot lava off a volcano. People pitied me, they could see when I was flashing like a frying pan grease fire.I gave away all of my sweaters and had the AC cranking in December. For 7 long years, I lived with the worst case of hot flashes. I would not wish that on my worst enemy. Lesson learned.

Now this is really hard for me to admit, and a sincere mea culpa up front to my gay friends (and I am happy to say I have many) BUT way back then and for what ever reason, my upbringing maybe? My religious background? My thick skull and my narrow mind? (what a combo).......I did not get the gay thing. Not at all....and voila...here you go Tina, enjoy your transgendered child.(And I totally do!)  Lesson learned.

One more old me, new me. And another mea culpa to the doggies of the world. Look, my mother let my brothers have a dog, but it was "just the dog" and that was it. Because of my mother's attitude, I also did not get the dog thing, until much later in life. In the past 6 years I allowed two precious dogs to enter into and pull on my heartstrings. I get it now. Unconditional love, in both directions.They get into your heart, we love them like family (even more in some circumstances, right?) I am now a dog lover. They are here for us. Lesson learned.

So the other evening I was driving to a destination that I had never been to before and using Mapquest directions, trying not to miss turns (it was already dusk) and pardon this expression, but if you live in Massachusetts, you will understand when I say that this Masshole was really on my tail. I was going at a good enough clip but apparently not fast enough for the Masshole behind me. When we finally got to a place where I turned left and he turned right (thank God) he made sure to stick his hand out of the window and flash me the proverbial finger. And I thought, hmm...there WILL be the day when he will be driving in unfamiliar territory and may not be feeling so cocky. He would probably appreciate it not to feel "rushed along" with people flipping birds at him. This day will come for him, I can take my money to the bank on this one. Peace buddy, I wish you peace.

Call it Karma, call it anything you want, but as we go through our life experiences, we learn our lessons. If we are wise enough to do so. And all of my life's experiences have brought me to a better place, one that includes compassion and acceptance, and of unconditional love. I found my life's work.

I had to get here to do what I do now, with my clients who come with their assortment of problems and circumstances and situations. In order for me to be of value to them, it is of prime importance that I meet them where they are at. That I validate each and every one of their feelings. That I hold their hand with their perceived "truth" but gently guide them to better thoughts and better places. To the peace we all crave together in this big boat called life that we are all in together.

I would love to share an excerpt from a new client that I started working with: "Just a little update and a big thank you...I have been praying, crying and tapping each day, and each day I'm feeling small shifts of negative energy being released. This process is truly amazing and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for accepting me, guiding me and being there for me....peace and joy..."

Trust that we were not sent here to be miserable. We were meant to live out lives in peace and joy. Can it be challenging to get there? Of course! That is why there is help in the world in many ways and styles.I feel that EFT is one of the best ways to clear out the baggage we do not need to carry.  The tragic death of Robin Williams reminds me of the fact that happy on the outside can also be tortured on the inside. R.I.P Robin, you were one of my favorites. :(

In my sadness, I found my way to this music video that totally lifted my spirits. Here it is, it is awesome: Hope it makes you get up and dance! And be happy.....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y6Sxv-sUYtM