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Dear Friends,

As many of you know, I am a proponent of planning your wardrobe ahead on a weekly basis. I've gotten a lot of feedback about this, both pro and con, but I stick by my story. It's easier to plan for your looks once a week rather than think it through every morning. And if you have a closet full of clothes you love, it's that much simpler.

Introducing the Morning Check-In

I realized, however, that there is an important idea that goes with this method. After sharing the concept with several clients recently, I realized it's one worth talking about. You see, along with my weekly planning, I ask myself a simple question each morning: "What can I handle today?"

What I mean by this is, how do my feelings about the day ahead of me play into what I'm going to wear? We all have mornings when we feel overwhelmed by the day we face. Maybe you have a particularly long day planned, a high-energy meeting to run, or a big deadline to meet. Or maybe you just woke up in a foul mood. On those mornings, I ask myself if I'm going to be able to pull off the look I had planned for that day or if I need to modify.

What I Mean by Modify

It's different for everyone, but for me, it's about the shoes. You see, I love heels. It's not like I need the height, but I feel more "me" in them. I feel like I'm working and since I love what I do, I feel like I love my work more. It truly is a confidence builder for me. Having said that, there are days when I know I'm going to be on my feet for 12 hours and I have to have an honest conversation with myself about how that will play out at the end of the day. My answer to that is generally a second pair of shoes. I can start off my day in heels and finish with flats.

We all have times when we feel we'd just like to stay home in our slippers. Most of us don't get to do that. So when we're honest with ourselves in those morning moments, we have the opportunity to choose a happy medium. For me, it's half days in heels, half days in flats.

The Real You - Every Day

Finding The Real You is all about being honest with yourself and therefore with others. As a rule, when I'm wearing heels, I feel my best. However, I've learned enough about myself to know that a key part of The Real You, for me, is listening to my gut and knowing when to modify.

The next time you wake up and aren't quite sure about your look, ask yourself a simple question: "What will help me handle today better?" On those tough days, you'll be glad you took advantage of those morning moments for a check-in with The Real You.
Patricia Gorham

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Be a Tranquilista
TranquilistaI want to recommend a fun, lighthearted book that a friend gave to me: Tranquilista: Mastering the Art of Enlightened Work and Mindful Play, by Kimberly Wilson. It's got tips and advice on everything from exercise to going green to finding inner peace. I read it on a plane ride and it filled me up with fun ideas on working, living, and being yourself.
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InStyle: A Great Source for Style Ideas
InStyle Magazine
People often ask me what magazines to subscribe to. Of course different magazines cater to different people, but I think the one magazine you can always find a great idea in is InStyle. They have a terrific "Instant Style" section in every issue, and some of the features include a work-to-evening look, a vacation packing list, or how to make one dress work a variety of ways. Even if I don't agree with everything they say, I almost always find a look, color or style that grabs my attention.
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