Tip of the Month

"The gifts can be anything, from spare change to a kind word or thought."
This tip comes from the book 29 Gifts: How a Month of Giving Can Change Your Life, by Cami Walker.

29 Gifts

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Dear Friends,

A few weeks ago I was reading Body and Soul magazine. One article really struck me and has stayed with me since. It was a profile of Cami Walker, the author of a book called "29 Days: How a Month of Giving Can Change Your Life."

Improving Your Life through Giving

Three months after her wedding, Ms. Walker was diagnosed with MS. Depressed, sick, and tired, she contacted a friend who told her to quit thinking about herself and focus on others. The book is about how her life has changed with the simple idea of giving something away every day. On her website she says, "The best way to promote abundance in your life is to be in a perpetual state of giving and gratitude."

Don't get me wrong, her problems aren't over (MS or otherwise), but what I'm learning from the book is that giving can make a difference. This is not rocket science, of course. We all know that giving makes us feel better. The book pushes that concept, exploring how giving can actually change the way you experience your life.

Giving Isn't Just About Money

When I think about giving, I almost always think about it in a monetary way. But that's far from the whole story. Giving can be as simple as voicing a compliment, sharing information, or doing a favor. Once I started really thinking about it, I realized there are so many ways to give.

What Do You Have to Give?

Because my business focuses on wardrobe and guiding people toward The Real You, I know that cleaning out your closet is often a giving experience. Frequently during a Closet Rescue, a client of mine will find something that might not work for them but may work for a sister, brother, or friend.

Turn Guilt into a Gift

I notice that people often feel guilty about giving away perfectly good things. The negative feelings are associated with the purchase. Focus on the outcome - giving away that piece that's been sitting in your closet untouched is a great way to make someone else's day, and turn a regretted purchase into a useful gift. Think of someone in your life who could benefit from it, or look to one of the many local charities.

Enjoy the Experience of Giving

As we head out of this year and into the next, I'm reflecting on giving - really enjoying the experience of giving, rather than feeling obliged to give. Doing one small thing a day for someone else will inspire others to give as well, and in the long run will benefit many more than you know.

Happy Holidays, and I'll see you in 2010!
Patricia Gorham

Patricia Gorham
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