I wish you could have known my dad. He was a great man; kind, gentle, compassionate, loving. He taught me to enjoy all the good things in life and to believe in the magic of Christmas and the wonders of Santa Clause. I guess that's why I'm probably one of the oldest kids who still believes that Santa travels on a sleigh and brings presents.

by Courtney Ehler  

  My immediate family consisted of my parents, two older brothers, and myself. As my brothers and I grew up and went off to college to start new lives, we continued to maintain the tradition of coming back home for Christmas. I looked forward to it. I counted on Christmas with the family. It was always there before, and as a young adult, continued to believe it would always be together.

Editor's Note: Although Kay wrote this article especially for parents with no surviving children, everyone will find useful information for coping with the upcoming holiday season.

   The forthcoming holidays are often the most difficult times of the year for bereaved parents, now childless and other bereaved people. I have some suggestions that will hopefully assist you during this season. My husband and I have attempted some of the following since our daughter, Rhonda, died and other ideas are from other bereaved friends.

* PLAN AHEAD

   It helps to have a plan for some of the events that are fast approaching. Think about and plan for these next few weeks. Decide what YOU want to do and let those who are close to you know what YOU need. The decisions you make will depend upon your individual circumstances. Adult family/friends should be able to better understand your need for change but some will be reluctant to changes. Continue reading...

   I have recently updated several new books for bereaved children.

   If you have a book(s) you have found invaluable or you a looking for a specific resource, please feel free to contact me so that I may add a book to our ever-growing list or help you find what you are looking for.