Redirect to Change Behavior


You say, "No!" when want your child to stop doing something that you don't like, right? But you don't ONLY want her to stop a behavior; you ALSO want her to start doing something else! That's called "redirecting"!


How do you do it?


Concentrate on specific, positive things you want your child to do. For example, instead of biting his sister when he's mad, teach him to go to you for help or walk away from her.


Brain Science for Your Baby


A 2011 study of more than 5000 children (Pediatrics, 2011) found that harsh discipline (yelling and spanking) was the strongest and most consistent predictor of child aggression and defiance. Anxiety and depression were also higher in children who were harshly disciplined.  Parents don't like yelling at their kids - but sometime parenting is frustrating! 


Which is why having something  positive to do will decrease your frustration - and your child's stress. And remember - all  those stress hormones aren't good for anybody's body or brain - not your's and not your child's.


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Make sure that you or another caring adult is watching the play of your toddler, so the adult can redirect his play to behaviors that are good for him and for those around him. One year olds are not able to understand the concept of sharing, for example, so take your child out of a situation where you know frustration or anger are just a "grab" away because he cannot, developmentally, understand the concept!


When your child begins to play with a fork at the dinner table by poking himself or others, for example, use this occasion as an opportunity to teach him how to use a fork properly, instead of using it to hurt someone.

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Think about your child's behavior as a learning opportunity for him and you. When he does something that is "bad" at this age-throw a tantrum, or call you a name-he is telling you that he doesn't know if what he is doing is good or bad. Focus on teaching your child the behaviors you want to see every day.  Visit for more on positive behaviors. 


Your staying "in control" when your child's behavior is inappropriate is important to his learning appropriate behavior




What Your Baby Can Do - Developmental Milestones 


Emotionally, one-year-olds are just learning to recognize and manage their feelings. They experience a wide range of emotions and have tantrums when they are tired or frustrated. They may also respond to conflict by hitting, biting, screaming, or crying. One-year-olds want their independence, and may say, "No!" to adult suggestions or insist that they, "Do it!" Then, moments later, they might cling to an adult's leg or ask for help.

Gene's Research Tip

So, which is it; Nature or Nurture? Well in 2014, many think it is both!  It seems that our genetic DNA (the Nature part) can be turned on or turned off by the rest of the world around us (the Nurture part). Read more here.  

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Written by Barbara Unell, Author

One of the most exciting milestones in your child's life is when he starts to want to do things on his own. He not only tries to put his spoon to his mouth when he wants to eat, for example, but he also wants to do so himself. "Me do it", as some children say, means doing an activity without help from you!

Showing this normal and healthy desire to be independent is good news. But it can also be frustrating for you, when you are in a hurry and it takes your child longer to do something than if you did it for him. You want him to feed himself now, for example, because you have to get to work or to an appointment. But your timetable and his are often not the same! What do you do to keep yourself calm?

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