SEX - PLEASURE - INTIMACY

A new frontier for  

21st century couples

Sex is a profound, important, and often complicated part of a couples life. If you have any frustrations about your sexual life, you are not alone. Sadly we are living in a time in which many, many couples struggle with their sexual connection.

For the past five years,we have been deeply exploring and creating an approach to increase sexual satisfaction for couples. It includes our own sensual and sexual journey, many years of yoga and spiritual practices, traditional sex therapy, Tantra*, and our experience facilitating couples as they deepen their connection and practice the art of Presence with one another.

Here are some of the basic principles of this approach to enriching your sensual, sexual and erotic life together:

• Know that life is foreplay: Pay attention to every interaction between you and create loving connections all through your day.
• Be intentional: Create sensual, and sexual dates. Even ten minutes can awaken desire and get you into it.
• Slow down; relax into the moment. Learn to be present for every move and every touch.
• Practice "non-demand" touch through- out your day. This means touching affectionately, playfully, sensually and even erotically without the agenda that it should lead anywhere. This is not easy but results in increased desire and eliminates pressure for both partners.
• Attune to your partner. Learn what is pleasurable to them and give it.
• Open yourself to receive what is coming to you. Allow yourself to be pleasured even if it isn't exactly right.
• Let go of results and be with what is.
• Talk to each other as lovers would: about what you like, what turns you on, what is sexy
• If something doesn't work, laugh together and talk about it.
• If you keep getting offended and disappointed in your lovemaking,
  seek help!