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Last week saw an email sent out by Steve Pankhurst, one of the founders of Friends Reunited, to the site's many subscribers. In the email, Pankhurst announced the closure of the site, which was launched in the summer of 2000. 

It is amazing to think how far we have travelled with social media in the last 16 years. Friends Reunited wasn't the first social networking site but it was almost certainly the one that made the first breakthrough to the mass market and was a forerunner of Facebook, reconnecting people to their former school friends, then ex-neighbours and work colleagues as well. 



It is very difficult to exaggerate the impact of Friends Reunited and the sites, indeed the culture, that followed in its wake. A new generation of people are now entering the workplace who are used to connecting with their friends online and who will stay connected to many of their friends as they make their way through life. 

For many of us, friendships have come and gone as we have changed direction in life. I often talk about my backpacking days in the mid-90s when you would make close friends over a very short period of time before one of you went south, the other headed north and you never heard from each other again. 

That is no longer the case. People become Facebook friends after meeting over a few drinks on a night out. The chances of staying in touch and building deeper relationships are so much greater as social media has made it so much easier. 



The legacy of Pankhurst and his Friends Reunited co-founders is larger networks, more inter-connection between networks and relationships staying alive for much longer as people stay 'in sight, in mind' with minimum effort. 

Ignore it at your peril. Those networks are going to be incredible resources for the millennial generation as they begin to compete with older generations for jobs and for business. 

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Who do you know in your network who is a woman with a bright future ahead of her or who is already inspiring others around her? 

My friends at WeAreTheCity are launching their Rising Stars of 2016 with nominations opening on Monday, 1st February. If you know a woman who is operating below a senior or middle management position, please consider nominating her. Not only will you be highlighting the impact she is having and showing your appreciation, you will be helping to raise her profile and encouraging her to keep on the same path. 

Nominations open at the same time for Rising Star Champions, recognising the activity of senior leaders who are actively supporting women to achieve more. 

Full details, including the criteria for nominations and the categories, can be found on the Rising Stars website

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Next week I'll be attending The Learning Awards 2016 Dinner. I was privileged to be selected as one of the judges for the Social and Collaborative Learning category. I have recently worked with one client on a project in this area and it was a real eye opener to hear the finalists' pitches, some truly innovative projects being run by some of the world's biggest organisations.

The world of Learning & Development is rapidly changing and I believe that social technology lies at the heart of a lot of what is to come. As a result I'll be attending a one day seminar being run by the Learning and Performance Institute in April to find out more. 

If you are a Head of Learning or in a senior management role, I would recommend joining me on this course too. Details can be found by clicking on the image below. 
 
 
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Thank you to everyone who completed my survey, I'll be coming back to your responses in the next e-zine. In the meantime, I hope you enjoy the newsletter and look forward to your feedback. Please do check out the blogs listed on the right hand side of the page for lots of extra ideas, tips and thoughts. 
 
Let me know what you think. 

If you're serious about developing a networking and referrals strategy that can take your business to a new level, or you are interested in booking me for a speech or training session for your team, find out more details on our website or you can contact me on:
  
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I look forward to hearing from you.
     
Andy 

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The A to Z of Networking: Q is for...

 
Quality
I couldn't lead with anything else could I?! Mass networks have, to my mind, negligible value if they lack deep connections. When you consider whether a network is strong, the quality of the relationships is a vital ingredient. 

Questions
Be curious. Find out about the other person. Ask questions and then ask more based on their responses. The more you find out about other people the easier it is to recognise how you can help them, what opportunities they might have to support you and simply on what level you can best engage with them. 

Q is also for...

Quantity
While quantity of a network is not the key ingredient, you won't achieve much if your network is too small. Always look to build your network, particularly where it is weak. 
Quotable
Will people remember what you say and be significantly inspired by it to tell other people? 
Quirkiness
Many people try to be quirky to stick out from the crowd. I'm not a fan. Be yourself, be authentic and be memorable by the way you engage with people, not by being unusual. 
Quiet
Remember, it's not all about you. Be quiet and listen. And if someone else is being quiet, allow them the space to join your conversation too, they may struggle to make themselves heard. 
Quit
Relationships take time to build. Don't quit networking groups or on relationships with individuals before you've allowed them to flourish. 
Quick Follow up
Networking is not dating, you don't need to play hard to get or worry about appearing needy! Follow up promptly after meeting people. 
Qualify
There are hosts of networking opportunities, don't throw yourself at every one. Understand what you want to achieve and qualify out the invitations that don't quite fit. 

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