This is now my 3rd year teaching the Powerful Women 6 Week Class and after over a decade of coaching, one of the concepts I've observed to be so challenging is that of inner resilience.
we are so busy taking everything so personally?
This comes up so often in my work and it's become clear to me just how much energy this draws from us. Think about when you're focused on a relationship where you are angry or upset at how you've been treated. Maybe you believe that someone else should think or behave in a different way towards you. Whether this is actually true or false is not the real issue here. Focusing on how you choose to allow the situation to affect you is what will create your experience moving forward.
We are so programmed to label everything we see and experience as good and bad. We believe that when we label something bad, it just needs to go away. When we label something good, then we can be happy. This pattern hinders our ability to be creative problem solvers and to see the enormous potential to learn and grow in any situation.
Next time you're pointing fingers at someone else and believing that your happiness is dependent on their choices, try asking yourself a few questions about your decision to take the situation so personally and then notice how you feel as you answer.
- Is this thought or reaction one that strengthens me or weakens me?
- Is this reaction or belief empowering or dis-empowering?
- Does this reaction or belief move me forward or keep me stagnant?
- Am I matching darkness with darkness or does this thought shed light and lift the situation?
Albert Einstein said, "No problem can be solved with the same level of consciousness that created it." Next time you catch yourself ruminating and spinning and taking something personally, be intentional of what it is you want to create next and try consciously
choosing inner strength and resilience.
You really are that powerful.
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