March News & Events
Hospicare Happenings 


Grief 101: For Parents with Grieving Kids    

This one-time event is for parents/caregivers who would like information about the grieving process. Hospicare's bereavement counselors will facilitate information, questions and discussion on grief.Please register with Kira Lallas LMSW, at 272-0212 272-0212 or by March 13.


Young(er) Adults Grief Group

Loss in younger adult lives is unique and can be isolating. Please join us for a support group and opportunity to make connections with others who have experienced significant loss in their lives. Participants must commit to attending all sessions. Please register with Kira Lallas, LMSW at 607-272-0212 or by March 4.

HFA 2013 Teleconference on Veterans
Hospicare will once again be co-hosting the spring educational program from the Hospice Foundation of America. This year the topic will be "Improving Care for Veterans Facing Illness and Death."     


The event will take place on Monday, April 29, 11:45 a.m.-4:00 p.m., in the Borg Warner Room at the Tompkins County Public Library. It is free and open to the public and will wrap-up with a panel discussion featuring local experts. Our co-host is the Ithaca College Gerontology Institute. More information will be coming soon.
Fond Memories
A Long-Time Hospicare Supporter
Remembers the Early Years

by Marlaine Darfler


As I read the article in the February e-newsletter about Hospicare's 30th anniversary, it reminded me of my early experiences with the agency. I clearly remembered being 28 years old, pregnant with my first child, and sitting around a table in 1982 with an impressive collection of professionals from the social work and medical fields of Tompkins County. We were discussing the feasibility of opening the first free-standing Hospice in New York State.


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Standing in Our New Lives 

Together We Inspire and Encourage One Another

Elaine Mansfield and her husband, Vic, in 2007.

by Elaine Mansfield


"I'll find a way to be all right without you," I promised my husband Vic a few weeks before his death in 2008. I'm still working to fulfill that vow.


After 40 years of marriage and two years of caregiving, I was exhausted, grief-stricken and starting over whether I wanted to or not. Where should I live? What should I do? I questioned everything.


I began creating a new life while mourning for the one I had lost. I experimented with new activities such as volunteering at Hospicare while drawing support from family, friends, nature and a continuing inner connection with Vic.


In 2011, my experiences led me to facilitate a Hospicare bereavement group for women who had lost spouses or partners. The women who attended this and a 2012 group found that spending time with others who had experienced a similar loss brought hope and strength. Encouraged by the success of these earlier groups, we are once again offering this structured time of sharing and bonding for women who have lost partners or spouses. I hope you will join us.


For more information on Standing in Our New Lives: A Bereavement Group for Women Who Have Lost Partners or Spouses, click here or visit the events section of the Hospicare website.


Elaine Mansfield is a writer and bereavement volunteer at Hospicare. To learn more about her, visit 


Save the Dates!
  • Women Singin': 3/5, 5:30-7:00 PM
  • Evening Bereavement Support Group: 3/6 & 3/20, 5:30-7:00 PM
  • Tuesday Lunch Group: 3/12, Noon 
  • Wednesday Breakfast Group: 3/27, 8:30 AM
  • Young(er) Adults Grief Group: registration deadline 3/4, sessions start 3/7 and run for 4 weeks
  • Grief 101: For Parents with Grieving Kids: registration deadline 3/13, session meets 3/18
  • Volunteer Training: registration currently ongoing,         6 sessions total, starting 4/9  
  • Standing in Our New Lives: For Women Who Have Lost Partners or Spouses: registration deadline 4/2, sessions start 4/9 and run for 4 weeks. 

For more information on any of the above groups or events, please call 607-272-0212, or visit our Events page to download a PDF of our current calendar.


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In This Issue
Hospicare Happenings
Fond Memories
Standing in New Lives
Save the Dates
In the News
Websites of Interest
Support Our Mission
In the News

Weighing the End of Life
A geriatrician and professor of medicine sees parallels between her elderly dog's last days and those of her patients'.

Blumenauer turns again to end-of-life care, after mom's death
The Oregon Congressman plans to introduce legislation to require Medicare and Medicaid to pay for end-of-life consultations.

On Loss and Regret
A powerful meditation by writer André Aciman about love, guilt, loss and regret.

Aggressive care faulted for delayed moves to hospice
Efforts to exhaust all treatment options before transitioning to palliative care may deprive patients of the full range of hospice services, says a JAMA study.

Hospice care isn't just for last days
In this Ithaca Journal viewpoint, Hospicare Executive Director Dale Johnson explains that referrals to Hospicare often come too late for the patient and family to benefit from the full range of services.

Websites of Interest

A website dedicated to helping caregivers  deal with issues connected to caring for their loved one. 

A website of inspiring stories and helpful tips on how to have end-of-life conversations. 
Reaching out
Help terminally ill people spend the end of their lives peacefully and without pain.

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