The UUCW Nugget
February 10, 2016
 
Message Update:
The Lenten Evensong Series, which has been running on Wednesday evenings is being postponed.  Please watch for further details coming soon!
 
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(Sept 1, 2015 - 
June 30, 2016):
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Thur. 9 am - 2 pm
(Closed 2nd Wed.
Oct - May)


Congregational Mission Statement

"The members and friends of the Unitarian Universalist 
Church of Worcester covenant to be a congregation of love, hope and justice inspiring people to take on the challenges of a changing world."
  
Welcoming Church 
Mission Statement 

The LGBTQI and Allies of the Unitarian Universalist Church of Worcester strives to further the affirmation and celebration of LGBTQI individuals in all aspects of the church community. We also seek to increase the visibility of UUCW as a Welcoming Congregation within the greater community.
 
UU Connections & Social Justice at UUCW - 
Upcoming Escalating Inequality Workshops
Joan McGinn, UUA Liaison & Escalating Inequality Co-Chair

In these complex and sometimes confusing times, we are fortunate to have the Unitarian Universalist Association (UUA) battling on the front lines on the major issues of the day. For the next few years, the Association has voted to work on: 
  1. Escalating Inequality/Economic Justice
  2. Ending Mass Incarceration 
  3. Immigrant Rights and 
  4. Environmental/Climate Change.
There are also new Certified Working Groups focusing on changing both the US and Massachusetts constitutions to combat the negative effects of big money in our electoral system.  Other groups are championing Animal Rights and First Nation Issues.
 
The UUA has selected Escalating Inequality as the Congregational Study/Action Issue (CSAI) for these four years and says about this issue: 

" Upward mobility - the American Dream - has become a myth.  Concentration of wealth and power has skyrocketed.  Dr. King's dream of justice and equality has fractured.  Half of all Americans are impoverished or struggling, as the middle class shrinks and billionaires take the profits.  Where's our commitment to the common good?"
 
Sometimes in our church and other institutions, initiatives are made, events held, but then you never hear about it again. So this article is an attempt to let you know about the past, present and future of some of the social justice work happening here at UUCW.
 
PAST
Last year represented the first time the downtown church (First U) and UUCW worked together on a social justice workshop series, and that collaboration has continued to this year as well.  Many thanks to Rev. Sarah Stewart, Paul Ropp, Lee Bona and Randy Ingham from First U for their assistance and leadership.  Events were advertised in the local media, social media and to all area UU churches.  Event locations were in both churches, since community space wasn't available.
 
Altogether, five workshops and one longer film on escalating inequality were shown. These workshops consisted of short videos, discussion and some action items (petitions, boycott information, etc.) on the alarming and increasing gap in income and opportunities in this country, disproportionately affecting people of color.

We had 35 participants, many of whom attended more than one event.  Most of the people came from both Worcester UU churches, with a few from the community at large. There were more participants from the downtown church than UUCW.  There was lively discussion and the material, which followed the UUA Escalating Inequality curriculum, was well received.  Unfortunately, there were consistent problems at both churches with the electronics/video presentations, which needs to be addressed.  There was general agreement that these workshops should continue.
 
Aaron and Beau also hosted a well supported series on race and race relations last year, including the tumultuous days within the UUA in the 1960's and 70's.
 
PRESENT and ONGOING
It is exciting to see the social justice work happening at our church.  Dianne Mann continues to do wonders with the food pantry, Sue Neaz's Crop Walk was a success, Judy Savage and Jenny DelGizzi are now selling Fair Trade coffee and chocolate (mmm..), and  Don Guyton oversees the 50/50 collection  which continues to provide needed funds to many area social service agencies.  Likewise, Robin, Lee Hill and the Youth Group travel to build and restore homes and hearts, and Sue and Robin continue our ongoing relationship with the families at the Interfaith Hospitality Network. Children and families receive holiday gifts through Pauline Courchesne's work delivering shoe boxes.

This church year, our ministerial intern, Beau Rivers, has already completed a series on the racism and unfairness in the criminal justice system, based on Michelle Alexander's book, The New Jim Crow.

The Green Team has already installed solar panels in Fellowship Hall, and future solar panels will be added on the roof through the efforts of Mara Pentlarge, June Davenport and others.
 
It is good to see all the social justice work being done at UUCW.  Likewise, down at First U, Rev. Stewart is conducting a book and film series on Race and Racism, which is ongoing for the church year.  It is gratifying to see her advertising this series in our newsletter and that some of our congregants are participating downtown, deepening our connections there.
 
FUTURE
So, what else is in store for 2016?  Joan McGinn and  Mara Pentlarge from this church and Vivian Shortreed from First U will be co-anchoring another series on race, class and gender in this new year. We will be working with Aaron and with UUMassAction, the activist and political arm of the UUA in Massachusetts, to address the new widening of the underclass in America.  UUMassAction, under the able leadership of Laura Wagner, sets up various actions collaboratively with other like-minded organizations, and schedules witnesses, protests and information sharing workshops.  We will be following the sequence of events of UUMassAction to inform our discussions.  We can follow discussion with political action so that we're not just "talking heads".  We are fortunate that Aaron has recently been asked to be on the board of UUMassAction, so we'll be in the hub of all that is going on there.
 
These Escalating Inequality workshops are still in the planning stages and Aaron is working with us to formulate a robust agenda for these February-March events.  This year we will have community activist speakers on the topics of race, class, gender and climate justice.  We will have petitions on hand between workshops to further the work of the group.
 
PLEASE JOIN US TONIGHT @ 7 PM IN THE LOUNGE FOR A DISCUSSION OF RACE & ESCALATING INEQUALITY WITH JULIUS JONES. (Click HERE for more information on this workshop)
 
So on those dark, lonely nights in February and March you can join a group of engaged, lively, committed people working on social justice. Times and place to be announced. Keep tuning in!  We need you.
 
Please contact either Joan (celts1600@gmail.com) or Mara (Mara@pentlarge.org) with any questions.

Mourning

This nugget is about what it's like to lose your father.  I tell you this in advance so you can decide whether you want to read about something depressing.  I've discovered over the last several weeks that there is a social phobia about mourning.  That is, when I mention to my colleagues at the office that I'm mourning my father-in-law, people get uncomfortable, avoid eye contact and move away.  It's strange that such a universal phenomenon is met with so much denial.
 
So I'm reaching into the silence and talking about mourning.  There's nothing pretty or uplifting about it.  Someone you loved dearly is gone, and there's no upside.  Hm.  Now that I write that, I think I may argue the point.  I may find a silver lining after all.  Let's see where we land at the end of this essay.
 
I lost my own father almost 2 years ago.  People tell me the first year is the worst, but I have to say I'm still pretty upset.  I don't think about him all the time any more, but I do think about him often, and I miss him.  I feel ungrounded in the world.  My sense of self has been upended.  I might have been starting to feel like myself again last summer, but then in the fall Dan's mother got cancer.  Weeks of fear in the hospital.  I'll spoil the surprise now and tell you she made a miraculous recovery.  Which is why when Dan's father had a heart attack a few weeks later, but didn't die, we were ready to find hope.  The hospital chose to install a pace-maker, and we took this as a sign that the doctors were also feeling hopeful.  Three weeks went by, and he moved out of the ICU, then into a rehab facility.  Doesn't that sound promising?  
 
Then we had the talk.  The geriatric nurse told us he had at most two weeks left.  We were shocked.  And yet somehow we knew.  It turned out he only had six days, which we spent by his bed.  The strangest part of the whole experience is that he refused to believe he was dying.  He kept talking about going home soon.  We wanted to say good-bye, but we couldn't.  He drifted in and out of consciousness for a few days, moving a little further away from us each day.  He did not acknowledge that he was at the end of his life, but slid into a final unconsciousness Tuesday night. 
 
We kept watch by his bed all of Wednesday, and around lunchtime a priest came to give him last rites.  His wife, Dan's mother, said he was holding on for the priest, and in truth he did die shortly after the priest left.  What was strangest about this moment, his death, was how shocking it was.  I thought I was prepared, I knew intellectually what was happening.  But when he actually expired, I was stunned.  I felt an internal earthquake.  I thought - are you sure?  I thought - but I didn't really believe he couldn't heal.  I thought - he should have healed.  What amazed me was how different he looked, unconscious and then no longer alive.  He looked exactly the same but there was an indefinable difference, invisible but dramatic.
 
So many people say the strangest things when they hear a family member has died.  They talk abot how they've gone to heaven.  One woman told me my dad would be playing with her dog in heaven.  I can see how nice it would be to believe in heaven, but it sounds so much like a fairy tale to me.  It's a cushion against the grief.
 
What has been different about our mourning is that none of us - me, Dan, Dan's mother and Dan's brother - believe in heaven.  So we are stuck with our grief, with none of the leavening platitudes.  And yet.  I have found my silver lining after all, in the tenderness we show each other.  We are more grateful for each other's company now, kinder to each other.  We spend more time together and that time is more precious.  So even with this tearing loss, we've found something good in it.
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