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The Hope Digest
 
 
  
                                          
Tracey J Schreiber, MS CACI CC
counselor, coach, consultant, mentor
May 2013
In This Issue
Reminder!
Something to Think About
Breaking Myths
Time to Celebrate
Special Mention
Coming Soon!
Relationships
Feature
Universal Truth
Guest Article - Janelle
Tools You Can Use!
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"10 Commandments for Building and Gaining Trust"

1)  When there is a disagreement, be curious, not furious.

2)  Apologize when you don't listen well.

3)  Listen for what the other person means, not just what he or she is saying.

4)  Do a random act of kindness every other day.

5)  In your disagreements, tell the other person what you agree with in regard to what he or she is saying.

6)  Show up on time. Be ready on time.

7)  Follow through and complete the tasks you say you will do.

8)  When you don't get your way, don't act aggressive or abrasive, withdraw, or become resentfully compliant.

9)  Own up to your part in a bad exchange.

10) Be compassionate and listen empathetically without offering solutions when the other person is having a bad day.

 

Ellyn Bader and

Peter Pearson

 

THANKS JODY!!!

Reminder!
 
Check out more articles and topics on my Blog.
    
Please pass this information on to friends and family or those who have been diagnosed with cancer or are caregivers.  I want to provide a place to share experiences and motivations.
Something to think about... 

 

What if it were YOU who changed?!
Breaking Myths!
 

But he/she will change....

 

Not a chance.   For the most part, people are essentially who they are.  They are made up of their beliefs and values based on childhood upbringing and life experience.  They will make modifications if THEY believe it is in their best interest to change.   But you  should not expect it - you may not be enough.

CelebrateTime to celebrate ~

 

 

May is National Date your Mate and Recommitment month.  It is also BBQ month - yum!

 

Notable dates:  

5/1 - May Day

5/5 - Cinco de Mayo

5/6 - Teachers Day

5/6 - No Diet Day

5/8 - No Socks Day

5/12 - Mother's Day

5/18 - Armed Forces Day

5/18 - No Dirty Dishes Day 

5/23 - Lucky Penny Day

5/27 - Memorial Day

  

June is Aquarium Month, Gay Pride Month, and National Accordion Awareness Month - go honor an accordion!?!  

 

Notable Dates:

6/1 - Flip a Coin Day

6/4 - Hug Your Cat Day

6/8 - Best Friends Day

6/11 - Hug Day

6/14 - Flag Day

6/15 - Smile Power Day

6/16 - Father's Day

6/26 - Forgiveness Day

 

These are just a few for fun and information sharing!

 

 Francisco Cordova

CACIII CFI

 

 

My name is Francisco Cordova and have a private practice providing services for substance abuse and Minor in Possession (MIP) program licensed by the Department of Human Service Office of Behavioral Health (OBH). I also provide community services utilizing adopt

a highway with CDOT, and adopt a stop with RTD.
 

I have extensive experience working with the metro community to include Contemporary Learning Academy and Mile High Youth Corp through outreach events. I was nominated as a Peer Leader for SAMHSA's 2012 Voice Award which recognizes those who have been instrumental in educating the public about mental health and/or substance abuse disorders. My private practice hosted the 2013 National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA) Shatter the Myths.

  

I am dedicated to the continued improvement of the quality of life of those struggling with substance and other mental health needs. I have eight years of substance abuse and mental health systems of care. I have attached flyers listing the services available through New Beginnings Counseling Center, LLC. I am here to meet the needs of your clients. We currently accept State of Colorado Department of Vocational Rehabilitation, Mines and Associates EAP/PPO referrals and have a sliding scale for self pay clients. Please feel to contact me with any

additional questions, also share this information with your contacts. Remember to follow us on Facebook.  

 

New Beginnings

Counseling Center, LLC  

 

2103 S. Wadsworth Blvd, 

     Ste 207

Lakewood, CO 80227

 

Phone: 720-620-7714

Fax: 303-934-2779

 

[email protected]

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Hello! 

 

I received a few "Ask Tracey" questions.   Keep them coming.  This month's Feature article actually speaks to a few questions I've received about readers feeling overwhelmed.  They felt worthy of an article.

 

Over the past months I've talked about seasons and shifts.  I am unsure of specific statistics but I tend to see a rise in marriage counseling clients during the summer.  I think, in general, there are times of the year where partners tend to set aside their troubles for their children, like Christmas.  Then they think, let's just get through the school year.  So May-August tend to be months couples want to address their problems.   The "Marriage Counseling" article seemed like a timely point of interest.

 

Also, please notice the information from Francisco Cordova about his services. 

 

Take care, Tracey

 

 

 

 

Relationships

Marriage Counseling

 

 
What is Marriage Counseling?  How can it help you and/or your marriage?

  

Initially, it is possible you are the only one that is unhappy or believes there is a problem in your marriage.  Your spouse could be oblivious to any problems that are causing you a huge issue.   Of course, big problems are likely evident to both parties.  For instance, infidelity, domestic violence, and substance abuse, to name a few. 

 

Regardless of how big or small the perception of the problem - we can agree there is a problem.   For the person who is unhappy - the problem is overwhelming and seems hopeless.

 

Marriage Counseling can help.   Your Marriage Counselor can help you learn to work together to solve problems - new and old.   Keep in mind that 65% of recurrent problems are not solvable.  WHAT?!  You heard me.  65% of what couples fight about are not problems that can be fixed.  In this case, your Marriage Counselor can help you learn negotiation and how to prioritize the REAL problems that may can be the root cause and or the effect of said 65%.  

 

While you and your spouse are the experts and have all the history about the problem, you may be too close, too biased, or too wounded to resolve the problem on your own.

 

Finding a Marriage Counselor is easy.   Don't use your individual therapist as they would not be able to provide an unbiased representation to the "marriage".   Ask your friends and family if they know anyone.  Check out online resources like psychologytoday.com.  Consider their qualifications, do they see couples?   Do they have unique education for couples and/or marriage counseling?

 

Lastly, marriage counseling can be done with one party.  If your spouse refuses to join you, go anyway.  

 

Good luck.   Let me know if you have any questions on this process or need recommendations.  Happy to help!

  

                               Tracey J. Schreiber, MS CC

 

"It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages."

 

Feature

You May Be In A Drought

 

 

 Like the rain in spring, we need love and nurturing to keep going and thrive.  If we cannot get what we need from those around us, we darn well should be able to give it to ourselves!

 

Are you the person who gives, gives, gives to everyone around you?   Are you the rock or glue that holds your family in place, whom your friends lean on, and your boss counts on.  Ok little Ms Go To Gal and Mr Well I Can Man, this is for you.

 

Pretend you are the Hoover Dam.  You open up the gates of the dam to let water (resources) flow to land (friends/family) down stream.   If the reservoir on the storage side depletes there will be nothing left to nurture the land.   You may think, "I can do this, I've done it all my life" but if you do not restore your reservoir not only will you not be able to help those down stream, but you will dry up too.

 

Moral of the story - like the flight attendant says, put your mask on first then help your child or those around you.   

 

                               Tracey J. Schreiber, MS CC

 

"Life's under no obligation to give us what we expect."


 Universal Truth
  
 Actualization

 Def: to make real, become.

  
It's time to act.  To make something real is to do it.  Dare to Dream.  Consider physical, emotional, and spiritual goals and manifest them.
Janelle's Corner...

ENJOY YOUR LIFE'S JOURNEY!!

There's a lot to be said about taking care of yourself both physically and emotionally and spiritually! So here are a few suggestions to help you be good to you!

 

 

-          Remember that 90 percent of what you feel is simply your

            own interpretation and perception

-          Think positive and generous thoughts

-          Consume food wisely and appreciatively - it has

             consequences for your body

-          Love the people in your life

-          Life will have its ups and downs and periods of total chaos.

-          Be aware that it will change, so just go with it

-          Try to empathize and understand other people's feelings

-          Be mindful and let life take its course

-          Take slow deep breaths often

-          Play music that sooths your soul

-          Listen and follow your intuition

-          Count your blessings daily. Let go of greed

-          Choose your battles carefully

-          Be honest ... practice acceptance

-          Attack one bad habit

-          Get enough sleep

-          Let go of regret

-          Remember life is about the choices you make

-          Keep promises you make to yourself and others

-          Wonder why - learn from life's trials

-          Pursue balance in your life

-          Be open to constructive criticism

-          Laugh a lot! Love a lot!

 

 

 By Janelle Womack, MA LPC NCC

303-808-5492

Thank you for your interest in receiving solid information, tips, and tools for Relationships, Divorce Recovery, Remarriage and Step-Parenting; and special topics related to Chronic Illness and Grief & Loss.
  
The Hope Digest aims to provide guidance and support to help you maneuver through the inevitable struggles that will appear in your life from time to time.
  
Everyone can use a champion who has their back!  Please consider me YOUR champion and relationship specialist.  Together we can partner, prepare, plan, and practice your next steps.  Whether you are thinking of dating, remarrying, becoming a step-parent, or you are a biological parent to a step child, you can be happy AND a good parent.    You can heal, break old relationship patterns, and trust in love again.
  
I invite your comments and questions!  Let me know what you need and how I can help.     
Sincerely,
 
Tracey