Debra Strayer

Let me tell you a little bit about her as I knew her. She was a Homeschool Minute weekly writer for three years from 2009 through 2011. During that time, she shared so much wisdom and insight and very practical advice each time she wrote. I know she encouraged many of you, and we were so honored to have her among our staff for those years. I can't tell you how many times I would read her section of the Minute and just have to email her right away and tell her what a blessing she was to my life. She always exhorted us to love more, encouraged us to pray more, and spurred us on to good works in our own little homeschools. She had such a gift that way.

Debbie was a strong and compassionate leader in the homeschooling movement for many years, as she encouraged countless families to follow God's leading in home education. Bottom line: she loved God and loved others. May the same be said of us all--not someday, but this day.

She would probably encourage us today to pray that God would "teach us to number our days that we might apply our hearts to wisdom." Ps. 90:12

We miss her on this side of eternity, but we know that we will see her once again on that side. Until then, she joins that "great cloud of witnesses" and continues cheering us on our homeschooling journeys as we keep our precious children Home Where They Belong.

Join me in praying for the Strayer family.

~Deborah

The children begged me to have their own garage sale and lemonade stand recently. I knew the amount of work that it would take, and my weekend was already full, so I agreed as long as they did everything themselves. I knew they needed to learn their own lessons, but I had to fight the temptation to get involved to help "make them successful." I would be there to give counsel if they asked, but it took a lot of self-control to stay completely out of the way. I had to laugh quietly to myself at some of their ideas of pricing their worn treasures and help them decide on a fair price for the refreshments.  

Their grandiose ideas of what they would do with all the money they were going to make were precious, as I kept my dream-crushing thoughts of reality to myself. By the end of the day, they made enough to cover their output of supplies and a couple dollars and loose change after that. I was afraid that they would be disappointed in their meager outcome, but to my surprise, they had such a great time together, that they were already planning their next sale. They had learned some business sense and had a good time setting everything up themselves and in such a responsible way. Had I been negative (or even realistic), they wouldn't have learned so eagerly all the lessons I wanted to just lecture to them.

Hmmmm. I think I learned something here, too. I made some correlations with how I teach academics to how they learned through this experiment. I saw that they enjoy learning by following through on their own ideas. Some of the things I feel they need to learn may not be received as willingly or gladly because I am merely lecturing or allowing a textbook to lecture them. I am praying about how to make this next year more memorable for them, as I would much rather they learn by doing. As I attend my local homeschool convention, I will be asking God for wisdom to show me how to implement more hands-on things this year.  

The problem with many of us is that we want to micro-manage everything our kids do--we even want to manage what they are supposed to learn from it. Then it no longer becomes memorable for them or something they want to retain. The learning experience they have is that they don't ever want to repeat that thing that was taken over or forced in. There is more to learn in running a lemonade stand than I thought!

Summer is a great time to set aside normal academics. Even if you school year round like I do, you can take the summer to ease up and provide some truly memorable learning experiences as a family. Or put down the normal academics and start those fun games and programs you never had time for during the year. Spend time with your children. It's the one thing you have to give that doesn't cost you a thing, and they will remember the most.

~Deborah