April 21, 2014
Forgiving another for a transgression is so hard. Many are trained at a young age to curse the transgressor and seek retribution.
I think back to my Polish Catholic upbringing and realize that my greatest mentor is my father. He is a man of principle and above all love. When things go south, he tries to see the silver lining and help the other, no matter who it is.
I faired poorly at this craft as a teenager. I remember a night where my supposed friends and I were at a party together. I was inside the house and enjoying the party when I decided to go outside and see if my friends were around. As I rounded the corner, I overheard a conversation that made me pause and listen. What I heard, hurt me in a way I did not realize till much later.
They were talking about how annoying I was. As a 13 year old, this was painful. I trusted these guys. Wrongly, I believed that every friend was nice. This was my first foray into human deceit. I shut them out and found a new group to spend time with. I never spoke to those guys again.
What I realized was that by not forgiving them for that act, I gave them the power to keep me sad about the experience. I have since long forgiven them and wish them well. The act of forgiving them has freed my heart to move on in a happy way. My father told me this many years ago. For me, it just took longer than he would have wished to learn.
Forgiving is the ultimate in release of pain and hurt.
You cannot change an experience! You can, however, change the way you experience it and process the feelings. We all get hurt. Don't let this pain dwarf your happy feelings. Forgive.
This is such an important lesson for young children. They will get hurt and they will be better off with a forgiving nature.
Happy Easter and forgive where you can!