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Strap on a seat belt and get ready. Teens are one of the greatest challenges to parenting. They are full of zeal and desire to grow and be unique.
Everything that applied to tweens still has merit at this stage. Teens are now fully autonomous of thought and action. They think that they need very little from us except to be chauffeured around. While they may believe this, we know that this is far from reality. The trick is to teach them without them knowing it.
Leading by example is always a starting place for education. If you are texting and driving, they will think that it is ok. If you are industrious and loving at the same time, they will model this behavior.
This an especially important time to be present moment with them as much as possible. Take one on one vacations with them. Attend school events when possible to show support.
Encourage them to work to earn money for their needs. Do not enable them by "giving them whatever they ask for". Jobs can be had anywhere. Mowing lawns, edging and weeding, cleaning out garages, babysitting, dog walking, etc.. can be performed until old enough to apply for a REAL job.
The power of being self sufficient and building self esteem through solid work and school effort will carry them throughout their career and life.
Discuss issues related to girl/boy relationships and respect. Discuss bullying and drugs. Make sure that you keep the lines of communication open. They need to have an outlet and a sounding board for sticky teen situations.
Enjoy them,
Dr. M
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