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December 13, 2013    10 Tevet 5774

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Parsha Vayechi

I Kings 2:1-12


The haftarah for parashat Vayechi opens with King David near death.  He advised his son Solomon to follow the Torah, so that the Davidic rule over Israel would continue uninterrupted. (I Kings 2:3-4).  But then, David commanded his son to exact revenge on two of his enemies, Yoav and Shimei, and to show favor to the sons of Barzillai (ibid. 5-9). 


Once a shepherd whose faith emboldened him to slay a giant, David became a jaded, politically motivated man at his death.  What happened?


The truth is that David was a complex individual.  As W. Gunther Plaut, the great German biblical scholar of the Reform movement who died in February 2012, wrote, David was, "generous and vengeful, spiritual and lustful, desiring peace but waging war.  He had a hard life ... elevated to a throne that was never quite secure; a father who had terrible trouble with three of his sons.  His last request is not that of a philosopher; it is that of an embattled man." (The Haftarah Commentary, p.119) 


This complexity is summed up in David's opening charge to Solomon, "Be strong, and a man." (1 Kings 2:1)  I think David was stating that a real man is both compassionate and strict.  He is willing to confront those who wrong him, but also wishes to be with those who love him.  His emotions run the gamut from joy to anger.  I don't know which side is "strong" and which is "being a man," and it doesn't matter.  The point is that there is no one set definition of manhood!  Men can cry, laugh, and scream; ultimately, I hope we will love. 




1.    Hillel taught, "In a place where there are no men, strive to be a man." (Pirkei Avot 2:6)  Why do you think Hillel said "strive" as opposed to simply "be a man"?  How do you apply this dictum in your life? 


2.   In the Book of Numbers, God was furious with Israel's insolence and threatened to destroy the nation.  Moses pleaded with God saying, "Please increase your strength (yigdal nah koach)" presumably by holding back divine wrath; indeed, God relented (See the spies episode, chapter 14).  How is staying calm when provoked a show of strength?  How is this counter to the stereotypical approach to manhood?  Do you think this understanding of being a man is important in today's world? 


Shabbat shalom!


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his week's Unraveller was written by 
Rabbi Michael Pont.  A native of Michigan, he is the rabbi of the Marlboro Jewish Center in Marlboro, New Jersey.  A graduate of the University of Michigan and the Jewish Theological Seminary, he was ordained in 1999.  He is the Immediate Past President of the New Jersey Rabbinical Assembly, overseeing programming for the states 120 Conservative rabbis. His three children attend Camp Ramah in the Berkshires, where he and his wife Natalie have both served on staff.


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