
Dr. Mama is better known as Rachel Zahn, MD, a pediatrician and mom of three grown kids. She is also the Angels
Assistant Director. For more parenting advice check out her website
MamasOnCall.com.
Dear Dr. Mama,
I'm the single mom of a recently adopted, beautiful four month-old baby girl. I'm slightly older (42) and never had children before, so sometimes I feel like a total idiot about the whole parenting thing.
My specific dilemma is this: how do I know when it's appropriate to put in a call to her pediatrician when I have a question?
Marina recently had her four month check which, as you know, comes with a bunch of different vaccinations. Afterwards, she seemed feverish and fussy for a few days and I called a couple times to ask for suggestions. By the second call the office staff seemed annoyed and reluctant to pass on my concerns to the doctor. I ended up figuring it out on my own, but felt like I was left hanging without the support I would have liked.
Is this normal and to be expected? How do I know when it's okay to call or not to call? I don't want to be THAT mom, but how am I supposed to know what's serious and what's not? It feels weird to rely on the internet. Isn't the doctor supposed to know about my baby?
Your advice is greatly appreciated. I just need some guidelines.
Thank you -
Puzzled in Poway