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Dear Friends!
I have been very pleased with how much success I see happening for those who have given me the privilege of being your career/life coach! Each of you are discovering your career/life path and applying your strategy. As your partner, it has been an honor to coach you towards this success! Winning sports teams rely on coaches to move them forward towards each win. In life it is also helpful, as many of you have learned, to have a coach to keep you on track and inspire you to reach beyond what you felt you were capable of!
For everyone on my mailing list, I hope you find the information contained in this newsletter of interest and helpful as you work on your career/life stategies. Setting your priorities, creating a realistic plan and keeping yourself motivated is all a part of your winning strategy!
I wish you well and if I can assist you in building your confidence and your career/life plan please feel free to contact me at any time! Remember your first session is complimentary!
Enjoy the newsletter and my best wishes for your success!
Mikal Jackson
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Stop Looking for a Job
(Darrell Gurney article)
"The best way to get a job is to not look for one." Does that idea sound crazy? It's true, and I've shared it with my clients for years.
That doesn't mean sit on your backside eating bonbons watching soap operas. It simply means it's critical to find reasons to meet with people outside of your need for a job.
Take a case in point. A client of mine was a high-level, VP-Marketing type. We had completed his preliminary career inventory work so he understood his unique value and patterns of success; we even branded him in an authentic yet catchy way. He proceeded to knock on back doors the way he had been taught - to research and relationship-build. Yet he still allowed survival-mode desperation to seep into his conversations. His hints weren't overt, but a tone of fear-based neediness limited his results.
One day he said, "Darrell, through all the introspective work we've done, something has become clear: I have entrepreneurism in my blood. My father was an entrepreneur. His father was an entrepreneur. My brothers and sisters are all entrepreneurial. So I've come to this conclusion: To heck with these corporate jobs - I'm going to start my own business." He went on to purchase a couple of franchises and was happier than ever.
Once he stopped "needing" a job, interesting events started to occur.
Without even pushing, he began receiving calls from folks he had met during his campaign. He also fielded unexpected calls on the resume he had placed in cyberland. With no attachment to landing an interview, he discussed frankly the opportunities people presented to him. In one instance, he told a hiring manager over the phone, "In all honesty, the role and compensation you're describing is simply far below anything I'd consider, so I don't want to waste your time by getting together." The hiring manager responded that he would be more than willing to come up significantly if he could find someone of such high caliber...and basically pleaded for him to come in and meet.
He went in and opened some further doors for himself, but that's not the point. What matters is that when he "de-desperatized" himself - removed all neediness from his conversations and demeanor - the world responded immediately. His internal sense-of-value shift caused an external awareness of value shift. He called me to say he finally understood what I had been trying to impart for so many months. Without need glaring through everything he did, and by simply focusing on building authentic relationships, the world was practically begging him to come out and play.
How about setting up meetings to explore and get answers on areas of your passionate interest? What about becoming a thought leader in a specific field?
Guess what? The folks in jobs right now have to focus on those jobs. So they won't be as up on everything going on in the industry as you could be, with all of your time to research and gather information. What if you became so knowledgeable and informed that people want to meet with you to get the skinny on things they are too busy to keep up with themselves? What if you went into meetings bearing gifts (knowledge or information) rather than only because you want something from them (a job)? Do you think it might create a different feel for your meetings?
Understand that if you are branded well and fly a "flag" of who you are when you meet people, you never need to ask for a job. If they see value in you and are attracted to the flag you're flying, they will find whatever they can for you automatically. Simply find reasons to connect and ask for a few minutes. Meet people in a memorable way (personal brand) and maintain those relationships to stay top-of-mind. You'll have so many members of your "career net" attuned to you that nothing will slip through without your hearing about it. |
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Is Coaching by Phone Effective?  Why has phone coaching become so incredibly popular? You've probably wondered what that's all about, right? How can someone effectively get life coaching or career coaching by phone? Actually, coaching done by email, Instant Messenger, and telephone, is not only the most prevalent form of non-athletic coaching in the world, it is considered by many to be more effective than doing the same thing in person. Why?
"Much of [actual coaching] takes place over the phone. Many coaches and their clients have never met face to face. But it may not be the face-time that matters most in managing to get the best out of [clients]."
-- Fortune Magazine
Think about it this way. A sports coach is coaching an individual in a physical activity. It stands to reason that the coach must be able to visually observe the activity and to give immediate feedback. But not even all sports coaching is about the athlete's purely physical performance -- most of it is mental. And life, career, or business coaching are the most interior of all. The stuff of non-athletic coaching, such as personal or executive coaching, is precisely the interior life of the individual being coached. How they look doing it is beside the point. All the motion, all the change, is inside.
Phone coaching is also arguably even more effective than in-person personal coaching, and for the following reasons:
● it's more efficient -- no one has to travel, and there's much less of the ultimately wasteful chit-chat that characterizes face-to-face encounters (not to mention waiting in line for coffee)
● there are fewer distractions to divert either the coach or the client -- instead, we're laser-focused on the substance and delivery of what you say -- and don't say
● because it's more efficient, it's also less expensive
● with the global reach of the telephone, you're more likely to find the best coach for you!
The best thing about new profession of coaching is that its reach is as great as that of the Internet itself. A review of the world of telephonic coaching will spot Florida coaching clients in Miami finding their best match with a life coach in New York, and British business coachingclients often fitting best with American business coaches with just the right experience for their coaching needs. With the whole world to choose from, and no limitations on anyone, why would anyone choose to limit their search for the best coach for them?
The best coaching relationship is like a good relationship. It's based in large part on chemistry. And the smaller the net you throw, the lower the chances of having chemistry within that net, so there's only a slight chance that you and your best coach are within traveling distance of each other. Enter the phone coach.
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Emotional Stages of Job Loss 
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DENIAL
DISBELIEF
OUTWARD ANGER
INNER SELF-CRITICISM
WITHDRAWAL
REFLECTION
ACCEPTANCE
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Let's briefly take a look at each stage:
1. Denial.
You want to believe that it won't happen to you. But too often you are fooling yourself. It is the wise person who recognizes what is coming and begins the process of seeking a new opportunity. According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, the average tenure for all workers is 4.1 years. Meanwhile, career experts agree that tenure for senior-level executives is considerably less on average. You should always position yourself for new opportunities.
2. Disbelief.
When the day comes and you receive your discharge, the first reaction is to think, "I can't believe it. They have made a mistake. They will call me back." But in your heart, you really know they won't call you back. This leads you into the next stage.
3. Outward Anger.
The anger may take many different forms. It may be directed toward your boss ("How stupid can she possibly be?") or to the company, the economy or any other convenient outlet for your anger. Sometimes, unfortunately, it is directed toward family members and friends, resulting in high stress and tension for everyone. At this point, you should seek out support. Surround yourself with family and friends who understand your challenge. Perhaps seek professional counseling or guidance from your minister. There are also many community job search support groups available. Seek them out and participate. As your outward anger subsides, you start to move into the next stage.
4. Inward Self-Criticism.
This is the most difficult stage. You may begin to blame yourself for what happened ("What did I do wrong?" "How did I fail?" or "I must not be any good"). Typically, this is when your self-worth and self-confidence begin to wane. When you start to question yourself, you reach the onset of stage five.
5. Withdrawal.
All of a sudden you find every excuse to avoid contact with the external world. You experience periods of depression. You stop your usual social activities. Your physical activity declines. You start to gain weight. Ugh. It is at this point that your inner strength and support systems are most important. It is imperative that you move through this stage quickly. Get up. Get out. Get moving. The more active you become, the more quickly you move through stage five. You begin to think through what has happened and stage six begins to unfold.
6. Reflection.
Being depressed is no fun and that extra ten pounds doesn't look good either. It is time to do something about it. You begin to take stock of your life and career abilities and ask yourself, "What should I do now?" "Where do my talents best fit?" and "How do I conduct my search?" Now, instead of looking back, you start to look forward and move into the final stage. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, and you begin to see it.
7. Acceptance.
"Hey, it's not my fault. My company fell on hard times. I am a great person with exceptional talent, so when I land my new job, my new employer is going to get one dynamic, motivated employee. I'm excited. This is a great opportunity for new experiences, new friends, and a whole new positive outlook on life." You have made it. You have survived the loss of your job. You are now ready to move on to a new opportunity.
Career Advice from TheLadders
Smile! A Positive Approach to Job Search Success
When You're Not Quite Good Enough
But Have I Mentioned That I'm an Optimist?
Feeling Defeated? Here's Your Comeback Guide
By recognizing the different stages, you are able to move through them quickly, rather than languish in them for weeks. Yes, you still face the arduous task of conducting a tough job search with all its inherent frustrations. Be creative in your search. Seek out job search advice and help from friends, career coaches, and work colleagues. Network like crazy. Practice the "Three Foot Rule": whenever you get within three feet of someone, engage them in a conversation and find a way to help each other. There are tons of resources on the Web and in your community to assist you. Through persistence and hard work, you will land a great new job.
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Finally, one of my clients recently wrote, " Mikal, I am totally in my 'zone' now and able to see the future, thanks for coaching me so that I could see how capable I am of moving forward on my own and oh by the way, I have three interviews this week!"
Coaching helps you stay motivated and on track. A smart coach knows how to challenge you and ask the right questions! Ask for your complimentary session and see for yourself if you do not start to get in the 'zone' and seeing the days ahead a little differently!
For those who are current clients be sure your schedules are updated and that you are on time for each session. And for those of you who are not yet clients, I look forward to getting to know you through a complimentary session real soon!
Think Forward my Friends,
V. Mikal Jackson
Human Capital Initiatives
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