I'm sorry to bother you (yet again!), but I'm hoping you can help me alleviate some of my pain and stress and maybe give me some hope for getting through a rough time. I've been meditating daily for almost 10 years -- TM, then vipassana, and, since March,So Darshan Chakra Kriya -- and doing your DVDs since 2006, when, you could say, my life started to really "dance."

Recently I was suddenly overwhelmed by negative thoughts and resentment and inner turmoil. A woman who works with my husband and me was flirting with him raunchily. I turned to some Buddhist literature to cope with it and also stepped up my KY. Still, whenever he and I were supposed to hang out with this woman and her casual boyfriend, I would get sick or something would come up and I would find an excuse to bail.

Recently, my bosses promoted her to my old position, and although there was still plenty of space (albeit next to this woman's casual boyfriend) in the room, they ordered me out. It looked like a firing: I had to leave immediately, because this woman had to take my seat! (Which happened to also be about ten feet from my husband.)

That completely destroyed me.  It's been difficult to do any KY at all, so I just do a few moves and do TM with the SCK mantra. My husband is supportive and also agreed not to expect me to join him in socializing with this woman (I am really "working my program" here! Even as I write this I begin to boil!).

I should add that we don't even like our jobs very much and wish we could spend our days be creative at home.

I plan to continue doing what KY and SCK I can and hopefully break through. But if there's any special mantra or move or slogan or ANYTHING you think would be a balm (or a sword!), please let me know!! love and light...

We are sorry to hear you are experiencing a life challenge. That is a tough one! But sometimes the Universe puts challenges in our path to remind us how strong we are or to show us how strong we can be. We suggest that you focus on the Navel Chakra and give yourself permission to cultivate healthy anger, be ruthless, and deal with this directly. That woman's behavior is most likely caused by low self esteem and may not be her fault (although it is her responsibility!).

We think it is important to work on building trust with your husband. And he needs to earn your trust by agreeing not to interact with that woman when she is inappropriate, or, on his own. We feel that he should respect your feelings and avoid anything that causes you discomfort. This is a big part of how trust is built. Where you do need to be a warrior, is in asking for what you need quietly, firmly and with grace. That said, with the proviso that there is a certain type of woman with a need for attention who is completely unconscious with regard to that type of behavior. They often zero in on married men (because they are unattainable and therefore "safe") and don't even know why they are doing it. Even though it may be unconscious, it still is dangerous and wrong. It is important that your husband be aware of that dynamic. Learning to understand the behavior of that type of woman is a big piece of the puzzle of how to be a man. Be a warrior, but be careful to pick your battles. Don't worry about being "spiritual." Being strong in setting good boundaries for yourself is also spiritiual.

It would be good for you and your husband, to find a way to do creative activities at home even before you quit.

Ask for what you want from everyone involved and come from a place of strength. If you anticipate any sort of confrontation from anyone, concentrate on your navel and feel a fire burning there. Also, practicing the Navel Power DVD would be good at this time. Please keep us posted.

The concept of a soul mate gives rise to much magical thinking, but it could be said that from life to life we are separated from a soul mate in the maze of time, space, and circumstance. This powerful mantra can help us find what's been lost and also can deliver us from the self -absorption of ego so we can be humble enough to recognize a soul mate and honor our Destiny and let the Universe work on our behalf.

Even if you've found your "soul mate," it's important to remember that that's where the work begins, not ends! In the context of both a Spiritual Path & a committed relationship we hit a wall within 4 - 7 years. It's known as shaktipad and is a test of the ego. Devotion, faith, and love are the only things which work to weather that storm. This mantra invokes those gifts and opens us to higher guidance and blessings. Chant this in any melody which has beauty and meaning for you:

Ardas Bayee, Amardas Guru, Amardas Guru, Ardas Bayee
Ram Das Guru, Ram Das Guru, Ram Das Guru Suchee, Sahee.