Top Ten Fears That Keep Us From What We Want
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Fear often stands between us and our ability to take actions, make decisions, ask for what we want - perhaps even to know what we really want. Fear is the gatekeeper of our comfort zone. But as poet-philosopher Ralph Waldo Emerson said, "He has not learned the lesson of life who does not every day surmount a fear." Below are ten fears that commonly get in our way and keep us stuck.
1. Fear of being judged. Needing approval from peers or family can stop us from going after dreams or goals.
2. Fear of rejection.
3. Fear of emotional pain. Rather than incapacitate us, painful feelings can sharpen our sense of joy and gratitiude.
4. Fear of embarrassment. Making mistakes publicly is awful only when we let ourselves feel ashamed.
5. Fear of being alone/abandoned. A strong sense of self-worth and what we can offer the world can reduce this fear.
6. Fear of failure. A biggie for most of us- and born of the notion that it's not okay to fail... Focus instead on the learning, and the trying. (You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.)
7. Fear of success. Can be just as scary as failure! More responsibility, more attention, pressure to perform: all this can be frightening when we don't believe in ourselves.
8. Fear of expressing feelings. Being authentic means being willing to express our true feelings: to loved ones, colleagues, adversaries....and to ourselves.
9. Fear of intimacy. Including emotional intimacy-really being seen by another- not only sexual intimacy.
10. Fear of the unknown. If we shift our fear to curiosity, the unknown can be exciting and thrilling.
Where do you hold back/ stop short?
Where in your life are you hiding in your comfort zone?
What would it take for you to get beyond the fear?
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Quote of the month
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"Behold the turtle! He makes progress only when he sticks his neck out."
James B.Conant
What are you unwilling to risk?
And what about your comfort zone?
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