As a parent, I was always tempted to return to each of those stores later and alone to secretly buy whatever the "must have" items were. Not to say I may not have done it once or twice - but I knew it was for the best that they didn't receive everything their little hearts' desired. Sure, I wanted them to feel happy and loved. But there is a fine line between that and spoiling them silly. Overindulgence can be a slippery slope that leads to materialism and greed. I wanted my girls to appreciate all that they received. I recently came across some holiday gift guidelines for children that I'd like to share with you:

• Resist temptation to buy everything your child wants. Ask them to pick a few items, and work from there.

• Instruct your children to always say thank-you, whether or not they liked the gift or already have it.

• If a thank-you can't be given in person, then a phone call or - better yet - a hand-written note is a must.

• Shop for toys to donate to shelters or children's hospitals so your children understand about giving, especially to those who really need a hand.

• Praise the children for showing their appreciation and for their generosity, which reinforces the behavior.

• Set an example by using your manners, showing thanks and not over-indulging.

With a little thought, the holiday season can be both joyous and educational. Good luck with your holiday to-do list!

Evelyn V. Martinez

Chief Executive Officer
First 5 LA

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